10 ways to change for the better.

There are many ways to change your life for the better. I am sure that many of you, like me, have tried all 10 ways)))

10 ways to change your life for the better

1 way: R 95% of the population used it before

No spirituality (don't tell me about this nonsense) - everything is according to a clear plan.

Read a lot of books, get several professions and achieve more and more new heights, working for days, sometimes at several jobs, sometimes sacrificing your interests for the sake of a better life. And the main thing is to prove to everyone, to win everyone! Well, if not all, then yourself - for sure! The main thing is to…

2 way: Popular for the last 10-15 years

No spirituality or esotericism. Although… there is something in it…

I visited a psychic a couple of times - there was one problem. Maybe I'll go again - if the need arises.

All the same to get an education and not one thing. Read smart books so that there is something to talk about in the company. To work for days, suspecting that somehow you can live differently. After all, some live easily (goats). Sometimes I can give up interests, but why. You can go to a psychic, if that ...

3 way: many have tried it, someone else is trying it

I want a free rich life.

I will marry a rich man and all problems will be solved by themselves.

Or network marketing, that's what you need)))

I want independence - I'm tired of working hard. The cash flow quadrant is what is important to study. The first books about success and focus of thoughts.

The first marketing trainings and hundreds of abstracts - after all, there is light at the end of the tunnel and those people over there on the stage did the same. And I'm smarter and I'll tell you no worse. Something doesn't work... I'm going to another training... or maybe my karma is on my money?

4 way: I want to live easily, because others live

My friends told me that something was wrong with my family, I would go to the training ... and then everything would be fine. Probably one training is not enough. I need to go again, but for now I'll go and earn money. This training (method, practice, teacher) is weak, you need to find a stronger one. Or go abroad? They know for sure, otherwise ours are somehow unconvincing.

5 way: Esoteric

We live in full of danger the world. Life is hardships and constant trials, and this karma is also ... but perhaps I still haven’t tried everything and haven’t healed all (324,000) layers of karma. I’ll heal my karma and then I’ll live, but for now I’ll go to work, or maybe become a vegetarian (it doesn’t burden karma, and you don’t have to spend money on meat). Or rush to Tibet, they say all problems can be solved in meditation.

6 way: Magic

There is also a magical way - to go to Jehovah or to a church or to another community. They live easily and do not earn karma, the community protects, what if I quickly decide everything here and deserve forgiveness? They read spiritual books and they have good energy - everyone smiles. Good with them. But they say the apartment can chop off. Kind of dark.

But I will go to Paradise, God bless him with this abundance, others live even worse.

Method 7: Can you rush to confessors?

Being spiritual is better than being unspiritual. Mantras and prayers help, but not much - children and wife (husband) ask for money (mobile phone, sex, dinner, house cleaning). But I can’t - I need to meditate ... heal injuries, save the world, and you tell me about earthly things ... egoists, can leave him (her), this is definitely not my person ... if I were a twin soul, I would understand (a) and still help ( a) would, otherwise, it only hinders the achievement of happiness, harmony, success in spiritual techniques. Damn they're pissed off!How can a spiritual person cope with this?

8 way: Esoteric-2

Now I know for sure that the world is full of entities that strive to spoil everything (state, feeling of peace). That's all they are! You need to put up a defense. Cleanse the aura. And then the circle is full of dirt and everything sticks to me! Attracted to my purity...

And then suddenly opened the ability of a clairvoyant (her).

He can help people - since there is a gift - after all, everyone has damage and evil eye - there is no end to work. It seems that there will be money, but how to take it - I'm talking about the spiritual!

Everywhere you look - curses and diseases. Oh.

9 way: Spiritual

Class! I am spiritual, but tired of living without money. I want everything and more, I'm tired of living without money. Buried in the excavation of limiting beliefs and traumas completely. There is no light in sight ... The hope that I will heal the injuries is melting day by day. The money has been gone for a long time.

I know that I am a creator, God. So what? But I don't even believe it, to be honest. It seems that joy is coming, but how to feel like God?Then you have to admit that it was I (a) who created all this (a). But as himself (a) because it's them!

Tired (a) alone ... I want a man (woman).This is horror! How could this be done? Maybe go to another training (but this is definitely the last one). Something easier...

If it doesn’t help, I’ll drop everything and go to a normal job ...

10 way: Live in the balance of spiritual and material

Now everything more people they come to him. The most harmonious way. Definitely there is a spiritual world and a material one. There is an understanding that everything manifested is wise.

1. Don't jump to conclusions.
This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we assume we know what is going to happen, so we turn our attention away and start acting on that assumption. People are useless soothsayers. Most of their assumptions are wrong, and hence their actions are wrong. The second side of this habit is that we imagine that we can read minds, and as if we know why other people do, what they do, or what they think. Again wrong, and fundamentally wrong. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.

2. Don't be dramatic.
Many make up deadly catastrophes out of petty misfortunes, and react accordingly. The habit of making an elephant out of a fly creates an anxiety that either does not exist or is so small that there is nothing to worry about. Why do they do it? Who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. Either way, it's as stupid as it is pernicious.

3. Don't make rules.
A huge part of all these "shoulds" and "shoulds" that you run around with are probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. What for? By following these imaginary rules, you fill your brain with unnecessary obstacles and childish routines. And when you try to transfer these rules to others, you turn into an intimidating tedious whiner or self-confident fanatic.

4. Avoid stereotypes and labels.
The words you use can set you up. The language of negativity and criticism breeds the same mindset. By trying to cram things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to absolute uselessness. Look - what's there. Don't label. You will be surprised by what you see.

5. Don't be a perfectionist.
Life is not only “black or white”, or “all or nothing”. In most cases, “enough” means just enough. If you look for the perfect job, you will most likely never find it. At the same time, all other works will seem worse to you than they really are. You will look for the perfect relationship, and you will probably spend your whole life alone. Perfectionism is a mental disease that will not let you enjoy, but will send you every time in search of what is not.

6. Don't generalize.
One or two failures is not a sign of permanent failure. And an accidental triumph does not make you a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events is not always a sign of a lingering trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.

7. Don't take it to heart.
Most people, even your friends and colleagues, don't talk, think, or care about you 99% of the time. The people from your organization, or those living in the neighborhood, have probably never even heard of you. Yes, actually, and does not want to hear. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally. If they pretend, it will only make you feel more miserable than necessary.

8. Don't trust emotions.
How you feel is not always a true indicator of what is really happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not truth.

9. Don't give in to apathy.
Practice being an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. A negative attitude is the same as looking at the world through distorting, dirty glasses. You will notice only flaws, not paying attention, or not noticing everything else. It's amazing how you can see something that isn't there if you just start looking. And of course, if you start looking for positive things, you will find them too.

10. Don't live in the past.
This tip is the most important of all: forget it and move on with your life. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness, and despair in this world comes from people holding on to past hurts and problems. The more you scroll through them in your mind, the larger they will seem to you, and the worse you will feel. Don't fight adversity. Forget and move on. Do this, and thereby deprive him of the power to hurt you.

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Let me ask you a serious question: Are you satisfied with your life? Or do you want to know how to change your life today?

Most of us ask what the weather is like, what's for dinner tonight, and what to do this weekend, but we don't ask ourselves the bigger picture of our precious lives.

Are we living our purpose? Are we really true to ourselves and our values? Are we bravely pursuing our goals and dreams? Are we growing and learning? Are we finding a balance and doing what's important to us? Are we using our potential? Are we excited to get out of bed every morning?

Nobody wants to answer these questions.

That is why the main regret of people on their deathbed is that they did not live the life they wanted, but lived the life expected of them by others.

A nurse who examined her dying patients, Bronnie Vare, said: "Most people didn't live up to even half of their dreams and died knowing it was because of the choices they made or didn't make."

Sobering up, right?

The good news is that it's never too late to change your life. When you take one step towards your dreams, the Universe takes 1000 steps on your behalf.

So what is one step you can take to begin the process of positive change in your life?

Here are 10 ways to change your life today and make it amazing, expansive, satisfying, purposeful, passionate.

1. Find out who you are

What illuminates you? What are yours strengths? What makes you unique? What are your hobbies?

You were born with a unique soul essence and no one will ever be like you again. You were born for a reason. Find out who you are.

2. Be the hero of your life


Stop waiting for someone to rescue you. You are in charge of your life, which means you can change it. Be your own hero.

3. List your life vision and values

Most people write plans for New Year, which are often a random and disjointed set of ideas that don't really move them any closer to a more fulfilling life.

That's why you need to be clear about your values ​​and set a vision for how you want your real life looked. Otherwise, you will return from your holiday in Tahiti and still feel unsatisfied.

4. Align yourself with goals

Do you want to know why people don't achieve their goals? It is said that they want to write a book, have money or lose weight, but when they talk about it, their language is in direct opposition to their goal.

They say, “It's hard. I do not know how to do that. I'm not good enough. What if I fail?”

Of course, you cannot succeed if you think the same way. All of these statements are programming your subconscious to stay stuck.

Start aligning your goals with your language. Start saying things like, “Maybe I can do this. Maybe it will be fun. I'm ready to give it a chance. I believe in you. I know that I am capable.”

5. Don't worry about what others think of you.

If you worry about that personally, you will be unhappy for the rest of your life. As long as you breathe, people will judge you.

Accept it. It's better to be judged for being true to yourself and achieving your dreams than to seek other people's approval and be unhappy. You might even inspire others!

6. Update your habits

Your time and energy are your two most important assets.

Most people deplete all their energy on random things, such as social networks worrying about what others think, complaining and watching TV, and then they wonder why they don't have the interest in life or the time and energy to do all the things that really matter to them.

Update your habits and you will automatically update your life.

7. Boost your self-esteem

Do you feel worthy of good things? Or do you turn down praise, turn down offers of help, and generally feel undeserving of anything?

The truth is that the Universe created you so that you can experience happiness, love, abundance and miracles. But you must feel worthy of these things in order to experience them.

8. Leave your comfort zone

Realize that it's more painful to stay stuck than it is to fight the pain or the fear of going on a journey of self discovery and taking small steps towards your dreams. Being stuck in the wrong life is like wearing an uncomfortable sweater that makes you itchy 365 days a year.

9. Take small steps

How can you eat a whole elephant? Taking a bite out of a small piece. How can you move a mountain? Carry stone from the mountain. how successful people achieve success? Step by step.

How will you ever achieve your goals or desires? Step by step. Day after day. One tiny action at a time. You cannot do it completely in one moment. Just divide it into manageable parts.

10. Let the Universe Help You

Most of the blessings in your life - your partner, friends, career, apartment, coffee table, favorite chair and - have come as a result of synchronicity and help from the Universe. Her power is available to everyone.

You just have to learn to work with the force that creates worlds and let it support you more. You can start by feeling like you already have what you desire before dreams start to come true. So you will always be focused on them.

Many problems arise from our mind. Most often they are not the result of any events, failures, or the actions of other people. By freeing yourself from 10 forms of erroneous behavior, you can quickly improve your life.

1. DO NOT JUST CONCLUSIONS.

This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we assume we know what is going to happen, so we turn our attention away and start acting on that assumption. People are useless soothsayers. Most of their assumptions are wrong, and hence their actions are wrong.

The second side of this habit is that we imagine that we can read minds, and as if we know why other people do, what they do, or what they think. Again wrong, and fundamentally. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.

2. DON'T DRAMATIZE.

Many make up deadly catastrophes out of petty misfortunes, and react accordingly. The habit of making an elephant out of a fly creates an anxiety that either does not exist or is so small that there is nothing to worry about.

3. DON'T MAKE RULES.

A huge part of all these "shoulds" and "shoulds" that you run around with are probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. What for? By following these imaginary rules, you fill your brain with unnecessary obstacles and childish routines. And when you try to transfer these rules to others, you turn into an intimidating tedious whiner or self-confident fanatic.

4. AVOID STEREOTYPES AND LABELING.

The words you use can set you up. The language of negativity and criticism breeds the same mindset. By trying to cram things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to absolute uselessness. Look - what's there. Don't label. You will be surprised by what you see.

5. DON'T BE A PERFECTIONIST.

Life is not only “black or white”, or “all or nothing”. In most cases, “enough” means just enough. If you look for the perfect job, you will most likely never find it. At the same time, all other works will seem worse to you than they really are. You will look for the perfect relationship, and you will probably spend your whole life alone.

6. DON'T GENERALIZE.

One or two failures is not yet a sign of permanent failure. And an accidental triumph does not make you a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events is not always indicative of a lingering trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.

7. DON'T TAKE IT TO YOUR HEART.

Most people, even your friends and colleagues, don't talk, think, or care about you 99% of the time. The people from your organization, or those living in the neighborhood, have probably never even heard of you. Yes, actually, and does not want to hear. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally. If they pretend, it will only make you feel more miserable than necessary.

8. DO NOT BELIEVE EMOTIONS.

How you feel is not always a true indicator of what is really happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not truth.

9. DON'T GIVE INTO APATHY.

Practice being an optimist, Lifehack.org advises. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. A negative attitude is the same as looking at the world through distorting, dirty glasses. You will notice only flaws, not paying attention, or not noticing everything else. It's amazing how you can see something that isn't there if you just start looking. And of course, if you start looking for positive things, you will find them too.

10. DON'T LIVE IN THE PAST.

This tip is the most important of all: forget it and move on with your life. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness, and despair in this world comes from people holding on to past hurts and problems. The more you scroll through them in your mind, the larger they will seem to you, and the worse you will feel. Don't fight adversity. Forget and move on. Do this, and thereby deprive him of the power to hurt you.

Olga PAVLOVA
Pravda.ru

1. Meditate every day to clear your mind as well as your body.

2. Make gratitude lists. The more you appreciate the good things in your life, the more good things are ahead of you.

3. Do not discount compliments, accept help, allow yourself to receive and give love.

4. Before going to bed, let go of the past day and problems with the words: “What was, was. Tomorrow will be a new day".

5. Wait 5 seconds before reacting to any situation or behavior of another person. The pause will give you the opportunity to do the right thing, and not act on autopilot.

6. Analyze the information you consume. Do not litter your life with nonsense.

7. Treat feelings carefully. They guide the way to a calling.

8. Formulate a vision for life. Why are you here? What do you like to do? What do you want to learn, how do you want to help the world?

9. Realize your worth. It does not need to be proven, live and enjoy life.

10. It's never too late to change your mind and become who you wanted to be.

11. Share knowledge with others. We can learn a lot from each other

12. Love and accept yourself unconditionally. Do not wait for the moment when you become slimmer or more successful. Start right now. Talk to yourself like a friend, not like an enemy.

13. Make a list of your interests, hobbies and joys. Set aside time for them, like doing housework or grocery shopping.

14. Try to forgive yourself and others, let go of the past.

15. Live in the moment. Feel how the sun's rays glide over your skin, savor every sip of coffee. Only in this way can we experience life.

16. Question beliefs. Most of them are fixed in childhood and do not help. Start building your own set of beliefs that will make you stronger.

17. Every morning ask yourself: how can I make this world a better place?

18. Strive for balance. Give and take, act and relax, indulge and limit yourself.

19. Use the power of imagination. Think of opportunities for the development of life and move in these directions.

20. Accept what you can't control: weather, queues, other people's opinions. Save your energy for more important things.

21. Don't let fear and doubt control you.

22. Strive for growth, not perfection. We don't scold babies for falling when they learn to walk. Likewise, we should not berate ourselves when we learn a new skill.

23. Promise yourself to live life to the fullest. Do what you have always dreamed of.


24. Recognize your values ​​and let them guide you through life.

25. Keep a daily diary to connect with yourself.

26. Celebrate small victories, they inspire confidence and lead to big accomplishments.

27. Discover abilities and talents, share them with the world.

28. Try new things. Choose new paths, hobbies, cities and professions.

29. Focus on solutions, not problems.

30. Take care of your body. Drink more water, eat right, move and rest.

31. Mentally create a picture best version myself. Imagine how this person thinks, feels and does. Start acting like him.

32. Appreciate what you have. We are surrounded by abundance. Think of a blossoming apple tree, a lush lawn in a park, grains of sand on a beach.

33. Each morning, choose an intention that will guide you, such as gratitude, forgiveness, or courage.

34. Clean up. Get rid of things that are no longer needed.

35. Spend time in good company. People around us influence us, so connect with those who dream, do and inspire.

36. Allow yourself to play and have more fun.

37. Stop obsessing over results. Redefine your definition of success. If you've done your best, you've already won.

38. Take time to analyze life: what is going well and what needs to be changed.

39. Get out of your comfort zone every day. Fear is a natural emotion in the process of growth and development. Train yourself to act in spite of it.

40. Stop judging others.

41. Set goals and track progress.

42. Being yourself is more important than fitting into a group. Make a promise to yourself to live, work, love and create the way you want.

43. Look for something that is related to others, and does not distinguish them from them.

44. Do everything with love: work, cook food, write songs.

45. Be more open and honest with others. Then they will be able to love you, and not the mask that you used to wear.

about the author

Elise Santilli- life coach. More details on her website.