Try to get as honest answers as possible. It may happen that your child will not be able to answer a question right away. This means that he either did not understand what was required of him, or never thought about it. Parents can answer the question themselves if they are sure of the behavior of their baby.
This test is based on the concept of "accentuated personalities" by K. Leonhard and is interpreted taking into account child psychology.
Questions require unambiguous “Yes” or “No” answers.
- Do you often have a cheerful mood? Do you want to run, play, laugh?
- Is it easy to upset you?
- How often do you cry?
- When you do your homework on your own, do you carefully check your mistakes?
- Do you think your friends are stronger than you?
- Does it happen that good mood suddenly becomes bad?
- Do you aspire to be the leader in the games?
- Do you often resent your parents and friends?
- Do you always listen to what your elders tell you?
- Do you always do your homework diligently?
- Do you like to invent something (games, poems, drawings, stories, etc.)?
- Is it easy for you to offend others?
- Do you think you are a kind person?
- Are you afraid of many things?
- Do you want everyone to praise you?
- Do you remember yourself when you were very young?
- Do your classmates consider you attentive and tidy?
- When you're in trouble at school, do you get very upset?
- Do you have good relationships with others?
- Do you often worry?
- Do you get sad? If yes, how often?
- If something bad happens, can you calmly go about your usual business, or does it unsettle you very much?
- Can you stay in one place for a long time?
- Do you strive to defend justice in front of parents or teachers?
- Have you ever tortured animals?
- Are you comfortable with the mess in the room?
- Do you like being alone?
- Do you ever have a cheerful or, conversely, sad mood for no reason?
- Are you one of the best students in the class?
- Do you like to play outdoor games?
- Is it easy to make you angry?
- Do you consider yourself happy?
- When your friends are sad, do you find it easy to cheer them up?
- Do you always speak frankly what you think?
- Does the sight of blood scare you?
- If you are assigned something at school, do you willingly do it?
- Do you stand up for others?
- Are you afraid to be in a dark room?
- What do you like more: slow and precise work, such as solving math problems and examples, or fast and non-precise work, such as reading books?
- Is it easy for you to communicate with strangers?
- Do you like to perform on stage when a lot of people are watching you?
- Have you ever run away from home, offended by your parents?
- If there is trouble at school, don't you feel like not going there?
- Do you think you're unlucky?
- Are you trying to difficult situation turn it into a joke?
- If you had a fight with someone, would you try to make amends?
- Do you like to play and take care of animals?
- How often do you return home because you forget to take what you need?
- Do you have anxious forebodings? That is, do you begin to worry that something bad will happen to you or to relatives and friends?
- Does the weather affect your mood?
- Do you like answering at the blackboard?
- Do you get to fight?
- Do you like communication with a large number of people?
- If something doesn’t work out for you, does it upset you a lot?
- Can you manage your time?
- Are you afraid of difficulties?
- If you read a sad book or watch a sad movie, can you cry?
- Do you get insomnia because of trouble?
- Do you try to tell your classmates and let them cheat?
- Are you scared to be outside late at night?
- Do you try to put things in order among your things?
- Do you ever have a bad mood in the morning?
- If you find yourself in an unfamiliar company, will you feel embarrassed?
- Does it happen that you get a headache?
- Do you love to laugh?
- Do you try to avoid contact with those people who are unpleasant to you (neighbors, relatives, classmates, etc.)?
- Do you try to do as much as possible every day?
- Are you often offended?
- Do you like to be in nature?
- Do you always turn off the lights after you leave the house, or have you ever forgotten about it more than once?
- Do you consider yourself a fearful person?
- When you are at the festive table, does it change your mood?
- Would you like to be an artist, do you like to participate in dramatic productions?
- Does it happen that when you are in a bad mood, you avoid communication with friends and parents?
- Does the future scare you?
- Do you suddenly feel sad?
- If guests come to you, is it easy for you to entertain them?
- If you are offended by someone, how long will your offense last?
- If something bad happens to one of your friends, do you worry a lot?
- If you accidentally make a mistake, will you start rewriting the entire sheet?
- Do you easily believe everything you are told?
- Do you have scary dreams?
- Have you ever had the urge to jump out the window or do something similar if something bad happened?
- When everyone around is having fun, do you have fun at the same time?
- If you have troubles, is it easy for you to get distracted from thinking about them?
- Does it happen that you act completely unexpectedly even for yourself?
- Are you usually silent?
- Does it happen that you try to portray yourself as a completely different person, and you yourself begin to believe in your “new” qualities?
When your child answers all the questions, you can proceed to decipher the test and find out the characteristics of the child's character.
First, take a close look at your intuition. If the answer to the question matches the transcript, it is assigned one point.
- Demonstrative personality type - if your child answered "Yes" to questions 7, 19, 22, 29, 41, 63, 66, 73, 85, 88 and "No" to question 51.
The sum of the answers must be multiplied by 2.
- Stuck personality type - if your child answered "Yes" to questions 2, 15, 24, 34, 37, 56, 68, 78, 81 and "No" to questions 12, 46, 59.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 2.
- Pedantic personality type - if your child answered "Yes" to questions 4, 14, 17, 26, 39, 48, 58, 61, 70, 80, 83 and "No" to question 36.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 2.
- Excitable personality type - if your child answered "Yes" to questions 8, 20, 30, 42, 52, 64, 74, 86.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 3.
- Hyperthymic personality type - with the answers "Yes" to questions 1, 11, 23, 33, 45, 55, 67, 77.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 3.
- Dysthymic personality type - with the answers "Yes" to questions 9, 21, 43, 75, 87.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 3.
- Anxious personality type - with the answers "Yes" to questions 16, 27, 38, 49, 60, 71, 82 and the answer "No" to question 5.
- Exalted personality type - with the answers "Yes" to questions 10, 32, 54, 76.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 6.
- Emotional personality type - with the answers "Yes" to questions 3, 13, 35, 47, 57, 69, 79 and the answer "No" to question 25.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 3.
- Cyclothymic personality type - with the answers "Yes" to questions 6, 18, 28, 40, 50, 62, 72, 84.
Multiply the sum of your answers by 3.
When you multiply the sum of the answers by the indicated figure, remember the result. The maximum score after multiplication will be 24. If you get a result of more than 19, then your child has a certain type. Don't be surprised if you find that your child is more than one type. This means that in one way or another there are qualities characteristic of these types.
Now take a look at the breakdown of the results.
- Demonstrative type
If your child belongs to this type, then he has a lively character, easy to establish contacts. Your child is very mobile, loves and knows how to fantasize. Sometimes he has a tendency to deceit and pretense. He willingly embellishes his own person, as well as the reality around him. Your child is prone to adventurous acts, he is very artistic. Clearly strives for leadership, feels a great need for others to recognize his dignity. Likes to be the center of attention. Often in such children a desire for power is manifested. Children belonging to the demonstrative personality type do not like to go unnoticed.
Your child easily adapts to the circumstances around him. He easily changes mood. Outwardly, he is very soft, but he skillfully manipulates others. Very egocentric, wants to always be an object of admiration, sympathy, reverence. He does not like it when others are praised in his presence. In such situations, he feels slighted. He likes to be among people, therefore he is extremely negative about loneliness.
The child has a very high self-esteem, which is completely untrue. He tends to provoke conflict. At the same time, he can easily protect himself.
He tries to avoid unpleasant memories and thoughts. It is very difficult for others to recognize lies in what he says, because his artistry and penchant for intrigue help him to create an optimal behavior model. He clearly has an extraordinary thinking, so he is able to surprise others.
- stuck type
Your child is definitely sociable. But this trait is not dominant in his character. He likes to analyze the reality around him. Sometimes it can be taciturn, withdraw into itself. In his character there is alertness, distrust of others. The child often suffers from imaginary injustice and resentment against him, and for a long time he experiences all these feelings. He is very suspicious. Inclined to hatch plans for revenge. He is arrogant, capable of becoming the initiator of conflicts.
He has a highly developed ambition, so he is able to show rigidity towards others. Cruelty is connected with the fact that the child has his own opinion on this or that account. He vigorously defends his positions, with intransigence refers to any moralizing. He likes to give advice to others, because he considers himself smarter. At any cost, he strives to achieve high performance, and if he has to face failures, he experiences them painfully.
- Pedantic type
Your child is inert, long experiencing any events, both joyful and sad. He hardly decides on any active actions. Rarely enters into conflicts, more often is a passive party. Any violation of the order is very burdensome for him. The child gets used to certain rules and does not seek to break them at all. Makes a lot of demands on others. For example, he believes that friends must be smart, neat, etc. If there is any discrepancy, he is painfully worried.
Your child is neat and pays a lot of attention to putting things in order. Responsible, strives to achieve high success in any activity. Does not rush to leadership, willingly remains in secondary roles.
- excitable type
Your child does not love and does not know how to control himself. He is very impulsive, never hides his desires and aspirations. Often it is rude, even cruel. He often becomes the initiator of conflicts; in the team, his relations with peers are far from being the best.
The child does not like to study, any work is painful for him. He does not strive for success in this or that activity, lives in the present, the future does not excite him. Above all, he appreciates entertainment, strives to ensure that he is always surrounded by a holiday atmosphere. Often seeks to assert itself at the expense of someone who is weaker.
- Hyperthymic type
Your child is sociable and mobile. He is with early years is distinguished by increased independence, loves fun, the range of his interests is very wide. Likes big companies, strives to lead. Usually such people always have a good mood and excellent health. Your child's self-esteem is very high. For him, all the joys of life are of great importance: games, delicious food, fun, etc.
The child is frivolous, but at the same time very talented. He is proactive, energetic and active. Often in his life there are conflicts. The fact is that his independence cannot but irritate others. If a child sees that others do not intend to obey him, this upsets him very much. In anger, he becomes uncontrollable.
The conditions of strict discipline are unbearable for him, therefore, situations should be avoided when he is presented with certain requirements. The child is not capable of monotonous, tedious activities. He does not tolerate loneliness very well.
- Dysthymic type
The child is slow, serious, responsible. As a rule, the future scares him. He is not sure of himself, finds it hard to mutual language with others, in the company is silent, prefers to remain unnoticed. He thinks a lot about sad things, it is extremely difficult to cheer him up.
He is very responsible, tries to do everything that he is entrusted with. Tends to be submissive. The child is painfully experiencing any injustice, so he must be treated as carefully as possible.
- alarm type
The child is more likely to be in a bad mood than a good one. He is distinguished by increased fears, life scares him. He is not self-confident, afraid of animals, the dark, often suffers from nightmares, feels uncomfortable among his peers. Any failures and problems deeply upset him. It is difficult and unpleasant for him to be in the center of attention.
The child fulfills all the requirements of the elders, but those should not be especially zealous in reading notations to him. He painfully experiences the dissatisfaction of the elders with his own person, he gradually develops a sense of guilt.
He has a very high responsibility, he makes high demands on himself. Often suffers from a sense of inferiority and tries to assert himself in some specific activities. This, for example, manifests itself in excellent studies or in some kind of extraordinary hobby that helps to reveal his talents and abilities.
Your child is touchy. He suffers a lot from this. If others allow themselves to mock him, he suffers deeply. Almost does not enter into conflicts, usually remains on the sidelines. Parents should carefully observe him; in conflict situations, he should not be scolded and punished.
He is very self-critical. He often underestimates his merits rather than overestimates them. He does not know how to defend himself from the hostility of others.
- exalted type
Your child has an enviable talent. He knows how to see the beautiful in life, he almost never leaves the feeling of happiness, joy. Moreover, such sensations arise in him practically without any connection with the surrounding phenomena. The child is delighted with joyful events, but sad events upset him so deeply. He willingly makes contact with others. He loves to be the center of attention. The range of his interests is very wide.
The child is attached to friends, is able to sincerely sympathize and empathize. Subject to momentary desires. The mood is unstable, there are often ups and downs.
- Emotional type
Your child is very emotional, he is characterized by such qualities as anxiety, sensitivity. He loves to talk with others, he is interested in many things. He is very kind, always empathizes with others. He tries, if possible, to help others, responsive, impressionable. He takes any life situations very seriously, and remembers troubles and upheavals for a long time. He practically does not enter into conflicts, carries all the grievances in himself.
He has a high sense of responsibility. Able to avoid communication in situations where others seem to him cruel, rude.
- Cyclothymic type
The child often changes mood depending on a particular situation. When there are predominantly joyful events in his life, he develops a thirst for activity, he becomes cheerful and joyful. Conversely, sad events cause him a depressed mood, apathy, and despondency.
He sometimes makes a strange impression on others. Either he is cheerful and joyful, then suddenly, unexpectedly, he shows lethargy, loss of strength. The child reacts ambiguously to persistent notations from adults: sometimes quite benevolently, but sometimes with anger and aggression. Capable of falling into a deep depression. You should be especially careful when handling it, since suicidal tendencies are not excluded. He studies unevenly.
Mood greatly affects his self-esteem. In periods of joy, he evaluates himself very highly. And vice versa, during periods of sadness and despondency - extremely low.
It is very important for parents to find out who their child is - phlegmatic, sanguine, choleric or melancholic. Based on the knowledge of the characteristics of his character, you will find a common language with him much faster.
The school has the ability to influence the development of the strengths and positive qualities of the child. Obviously, in school, students receive a lot of knowledge and learning skills. There is no doubt that the amount of school workload has an impact on intellectual development.
In addition to cognitive (related to knowledge and psychological processes) and learning objectives put by the school, it provides children with an informal academic plan: Schoolchildren are expected to follow rules, cooperate with other students, respect authority, and prepare to become good citizens
The teacher-psychologist needs to note the qualities that best reflect the natural abilities, positive character traits and special talents of the child. It is necessary to record in a journal the gradual change in the child's problem behavior to include in your calendar-thematic plan.
visual abilities
Drawing
photo
remembering details
Painting
vivid imagination
visual representation
card reading
orientation
creativity
Logic and thinking
Ability to work with a computer
organization
problem solving abilities
abstract thinking
math and numbers
logic games
deciphering codes
sanity
aptitude for science
cleverness
fast learner
sharp memory
comprehension
mind
body sphere
Performing inclinations
getting used to the role
harmony of movements
dancing
stage performance
any sport
physical strength gracefulness
endurance
bodily harmony
dexterity
movement coordination
Musical ability
game on musical instruments
singing
rhythm
memorization of melodies
composing music
reading music
music perception
Personality and character traits
Creativity
initiative
purposefulness
patience
reliability
responsiveness
courage
attentiveness
industriousness
easy adaptability
good nature
responsibility
nobility
confidence
independence
accuracy
determination
truthfulness
insight tenderness
maturity openness
quickness
optimism
devotion
seriousness
honesty
discipline
attachment
strength of character
conscientiousness
social skills
Friendliness
leadership
willingness to help
good nature
sportsmanship
politeness
decency
compliance
ability to be on a team
ability to do something in a team
sharing
empathy
sensitivity
capacity for reconciliation
cheerfulness charm
ability to support
wit
listening skills
attractiveness
Linguistic ability
Reading
rich vocabulary
ability to speak well memorization of facts
creative writing skills
poetry
disputes
ability to joke
storytelling
Appearance
Accuracy
attractiveness
stately posture
special features
Attitude towards nature
tendency to observe
love to the animals
curiosity
love for tourism
educational collecting
Literature:
1. 1. M. Borba. "Not bad behavior: 38 patterns of problem child behavior and how to deal with it. Moscow: Williams, 2005
school of good manners
Material http://www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/shkola_horoshih_maner
The school of good manners is one of the methods of educating children and adolescents.
The optimal age of children is from 12 to 15 years. It is possible to use it both in schools and in boarding schools, although the method was originally invented for family education.
In the morning it is announced to the children: “The School of good manners is starting for you. Your task every day is to come up with one simple item about your behavior, primarily expressing a friendly attitude towards each other or towards your parents, and in the evening you rate yourself on this item. Items can be different: to greet everyone in the morning " Good morning!" with a smile, help your mother set the table, address each other politely (not Aska, but Asya) ... Every day you add a new item to yourself, and put marks on everyone. All items are recorded on the computer. Until the results of the past day are summed up in the morning and a new item is not invented, no entertainment is the first thing of the day.
Hints
If children find it difficult to come up with new items, parents can sometimes help them by compiling their own recommendation list from which children can choose something.
It is hardly appropriate to include in the list of household chores that were already on the children (for example, going to the store).
Evaluate not for “I did”, but “I did”, and evaluate objectively, from the position of an outside observer. Not “I said good night to everyone”, but “Everyone who I wished good night heard me!”
How to put yourself in order is, first of all, to distract from negative or other unnecessary thoughts (experiences), relieve tension and calm down. The following methods usually help here:
To keep a diary
work with beliefs
emotional diary
what happened, the amount of losses
positive experience notebook
write forgiveness
Physical activity
sports, dancing, yoga,
walk, sex
Ejection of the negative
speak out
throw out the accusations
Relaxation
sleep, exercise
Breath
singing
surprised "Oh?"
smooth, long exhalation
yell, sharp exhalations
Change of scenery. New:
situation. office street,
environment: favorite, another company
role, role.
point of view. Discuss!
Anchors
musical
food, color and smell,
memories
Gifts
"To amuse the carcass": manicure, massage, spa
tokens of attention
shopping, restaurant, food
gifts for loved ones
Is the child born with certain personality traits, or does it acquire them later? Does it make sense to fight some of his inclinations or do you need to learn to accept the baby as he is? In search of answers to these questions, let us turn to the followers of Freud.
Modern parents and teachers do not cease to wonder what in the behavior and character of the child depends on education, and what does not. Wanting to understand the situation, our compatriot, Viktor Tolkachev, finalized Freud's theory of the connection between physiology and personal qualities and identified 8 types of character.
His student, Lyudmila Perelshtein, compares the children's team with an Indian tribe and gives its members the following titles:
- — Chief
- — Sniffer
- — Chatterbox
- - Artist
- — Hearer
- - Calculator
- — Kopusha
- — Strongman
In his book Beware the Children! she describes each type and tells which of the ways to communicate with them is most effective. Let's look at each type separately.
LEADER
Traits:
Leader, soul of the company. Very sensitive to criticism. By all means seeks approval and recognition. Bold, determined, loves to try new things. Not able to concentrate for a long time on what he considers boring. Keeping his things in order is not his forte.
To build a good relationship with the Leader, you need to make him feel that his opinion is taken into account. Give him the opportunity to make decisions on his own, even if you see that they are unsuccessful.
The leader craves praise, and this can become a problem in relationships with others. Therefore, try to orient him so that he evaluates his own success. To do this, state the fact of his achievement and ask what he feels and thinks about this.
SNIFFER
Traits:
Very sensitive to odors. Often sniffs food and objects. He regularly gets respiratory infections. Curious, but cautious and prudent. Homebody. Prefers the role of an observer.
How to deal with such a child:
If the Sniffer assures you that he has detected an unpleasant odor in food that you think is perfectly fresh, be sure that he is not imagining anything, and do not force him to eat.
Do not scold the Sniffer child for picking his nose, rather tell him that it is better to clean the nose in the toilet, because this is an intimate process.
Due to its nature, it is difficult for a Sniffer baby to communicate with peers. Let him make contact with adults, because this also teaches communication.
The less attention you pay to "bad words", the faster he will forget them.
CHATTER
Traits:
How to deal with such a child:
It is very important for Chatterbox to feel the taste of food, so if, because of the love of food, a child has developed excess weight, do not try to put him on a "tasteless" diet. It is better to choose a less high-calorie, but tasty menu.
Chatterboxes show interest in obscene words simply because they like the way they sound. Therefore, do not be shy and do not scold the baby if he suddenly gives out something like that. The less attention you pay to "bad words", the faster he will forget them.
As Victor Hugo used to say, a person has as many as three characters: one ascribes to him the environment, the other he ascribes to himself, and the third is real, objective.
There are more than five hundred character traits of a person, and not all of them are unambiguously positive or negative, a lot depends on the context.
Therefore, any person who has collected certain qualities in individual proportions is unique.
The character of a person is a specific combination of personal, ordered psychological traits, features, nuances inherent only to him. It is formed, meanwhile, for a lifetime and manifests itself during labor and social interaction.
Soberly assessing and describing the character of the chosen person is not an easy task. After all, not all of its properties are shown to the environment: some features (good and bad) remain in the shadows. Yes, and to ourselves we seem somewhat different than seen in the mirror.
Is it possible? Yes, there is a version that this is possible. Through long efforts and training, you are able to appropriate the qualities you love, becoming a little better.
The character of a person is manifested in actions, in social behavior. It is visible in the attitude of the individual to work, to things, to other people and in her self-esteem. 
In addition, the qualities of character are divided into groups - "volitional", "emotional", "intellectual" and "social".
We are not born with specific traits, but acquire them in the process of upbringing, education, exploration of the environment, and so on. Of course, the genotype also influences the formation of character: the apple often falls very close to the apple tree.
At its core, character is close to temperament, but they are not the same thing.
In order to relatively soberly assess yourself and your role in society, psychologists advise you to write out your positive, neutral and negative traits on a piece of paper and analyze them.
Try to do this and you will find examples of character traits below.
Positive character traits (list)
Negative qualities of character (list)
At the same time, some qualities are difficult to attribute to good or bad, and you can’t call them neutral either. So, any mother wants her daughter to be shy, silent and bashful, but is this good for the girl?
Again, a dreamy person can be cute, but completely unlucky due to the fact that he is always in the clouds. An assertive individual looks stubborn for some, unbearable and stubborn for others.
Is it bad to be gambling and carefree? How far has cunning gone from wisdom and resourcefulness? Ambitiousness, ambition, purposefulness lead to success or to loneliness? It will probably depend on the situation and context.
And what to be to you, you decide!
What determines the nature of the child?
The formation of a child's character does not happen overnight. It is greatly influenced by the following factors:
Heredity;
upbringing;
parental behavior;
environment ( Kindergarten, school).
At the beginning life path the crumbs have a clear role model - his beloved parents. He consciously and unconsciously copies their behavior, which is the only correct one for him. Later, when his social circle expands, the baby is surprised to realize that there are many other people in the world, big and small, who can behave in a completely different way, and he draws information from communication with each of them.
Your baby's temperature
A child, even a one-year-old, is already a person. And he has a certain type of temperament, which is determined by his own characteristics of character and behavior, as well as the genetic predisposition of the child. As you know, there are four main types of human temperament: sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic and melancholic. Let's find out what they are and how you can determine the temperament of a child.
Sanguine characterizes an open, kind disposition, the ability to easily endure failures, "liveness" of character, energy. Most often, these are the leaders of the children's team, good leaders grow out of them.
A choleric child is very emotional, demanding, even aggressive. He is able to get passionately carried away by some business, but if something does not work out for him, he can flare up. Choleric is prone to frequent mood swings.
The phlegmatic type of temperament is determined by such qualities as slowness, emotional stability, endurance. The phlegmatic is often lazy, his facial expressions are inexpressive, he gets used to everything new for a long time.
A kid with a melancholic temperament is usually shy, vulnerable, insecure. He is more difficult than others to adapt to new conditions, including to the team. But at the same time he is prone to subtle emotional experiences, punctual and organized. Such children can achieve great success in creativity: music, painting, sculpture, poetry.
These four types of temperament rarely appear in their pure form. Most often, the temperament of the child is mixed. At the same time, the features inherent in the “neighboring” types are mainly intersected: choleric / sanguine, phlegmatic / melancholic.
The temperament of a child is an innate property, it is very difficult, almost impossible to change it. And parents need to come to terms with this, not to suppress him, trying to adjust "for themselves", but only to gently correct his behavioral reactions.
Education of the character of the child in the family
Absolutely "good" or "bad" types of temperament do not exist, and both positive and negative traits appear in the character of each child.
Moral traits such as honesty, decency, tolerance, attention to others can and should be instilled in a child in the process of education. Of course, this largely depends on the nature of the parents themselves.
The child acquires strong-willed qualities of character mainly in communication with peers. At home, mom and dad can teach the child perseverance, striving for success, determination in a playful way.
Difficult, according to parents, the character of a child may imply both excessive emotionality, irascibility, and, conversely, tearfulness, frequent mood swings, and the habit of complaining. And although you can’t “remake” a child, you can still try to change these character traits. This must be done gradually, patiently, showing sensitivity. Do not put pressure on the baby, do not try to “break” him, do not abuse prohibitions and punishments.
You can find your own approach to each child, knowing the characteristics of his character. And even if your child is “difficult”, remember that he is still the most beloved!
