The life of a girl who passes without hassle and problems is, of course, very good! However, over time, this course of events can get boring. Many of the fair sex have a strong desire to try on a wedding dress and put a treasured ring on their finger.

There is folk omens that will help you quickly find a future spouse. Following them, you can meet the person who will definitely become your husband. And a woman will be happy only if she knows the joy of having a baby and all the delights family life.

Signs that help you quickly find a husband

1. You will quickly find a future husband if you sweep the rubbish in the direction from the threshold to the window.
2. Guys will not pay attention to you if you do your hair when other people see it.
3. You will never be married if you begin to transfer any things without crossing the threshold of the house. Also, you can not eat while sitting on the doorstep.
4. A woman will have an unhappy family life with an alcoholic if her apron constantly gets wet during household chores.
5. Guys will bypass you if you accidentally draw a circle around you with a broom. This is an ancient symbolism that carries a deep meaning.
6. If you pray and fast on November 7, you will soon meet your beloved.
7. Girls who did not have time to find a life partner are required to adhere to Lent. Then they will find a faithful spouse and know the happiness of family life.
8. You will soon become engaged to the person you really love if you were poured with an alcoholic drink at your friends' wedding.
9. You are less likely to find your betrothed if you have tried on someone else's wedding dress at least once. It is worth refraining from this temptation.
10. A happy family life awaits you if you brushed the bride's shoes with your own hands or hemmed the hem of her dress.
11. The betrothed will soon find you if you were able to catch a wedding bouquet at a wedding where you were present as a guest.
12. You will successfully marry if you are entrusted to play the role of a witness at the wedding of your closest people.
13. A happy marriage requires matchmaking on the fourth day of the week. It was Thursday that was considered the most correct day to visit the house of the chosen one of the groom.
14. If during the wedding at which you were a guest, you managed to dance with the groom, then you will get married very soon. The sign is most effective if the groom himself comes up to you and invites you to dance.
15. You will not get married soon if you take an active part in various competitions at the celebration of your friends.
16. You don't have to wear your wedding dress if you're used to sitting on the windowsill.
17. The girl who eats sitting on the corner of the table will live alone.
18. Guests do not have to wait for a treat for a long time. Have them sit around the table as quickly as possible. Thus, you will get married faster.

How to successfully marry?

49 simple rules

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There are women who are very well married. The husband of such a lucky woman is rich, smart, handsome, kind and generous. He compliments his beloved wife, gives gifts with or without reason, washes, cooks, puts away his socks, loves her pets, wants children, and in bed he is just a hero. He is reliable, like a Swiss bank, and more than once rescued his beloved from all sorts of unpleasant situations. With him it is convenient to go to nature, he is ready to pick up his beloved every day from work. At the same time, he himself works and is periodically promoted.

Amazing, you say. Yes, she just got a unique copy, one in a million, this simply does not happen ... No, my dear girls, women, ladies, you are my beauties! Every nation is worthy of its master, and every woman is worthy of her man. Therefore, if you seriously want to find your other half, marry a person who will carry you in his arms, kiss the land you have walked on, and give expensive gifts, then I ask you to heed the advice presented in this book.

But first, dear ladies, welcome to the course of lectures on the classification of the male sex. So, whom should we be afraid of, and with whom can we build quality relationships? I will try to describe to you each type of male individuals separately, but you decide for yourself who is literally created for you, and with which person you are not at all on the way. Here we go?

SISSY

He can't do almost anything on his own. Sometimes you even have to spoon feed him. Such a man will not be able to swaddle a child if, God forbid, you have a sore throat, and will demand a hot breakfast from you, even if yesterday you washed and ironed his shirts until one in the morning. To any of your attempts to solve family issues together, the answer will follow: "As your mother says." His mother in your life will be the ultimate truth. It is she, and not you, who will decide where to go on vacation, what to buy, where to go, where to be treated and everything else. (Usually such a young man was brought up in an incomplete family.) Things are even worse for you if he also has a sister who, like her mother, is completely focused on the life of a “boy”. All this results in the fact that a man does not know how to do elementary things and sincerely believes that shirts and panties are washed on their own, the sausage itself comes from the store, and the meat and vegetables in an incredible way jump into the pan and turn into an appetizing stew, to cook which you actually spent the whole evening. In love, he turns his cheek, but does not kiss, so think about it, my dear, whether you will become a wife or a second mother for such an instance, because you will never be able to remake it.

Oh, crybaby - that's something! Each of us at times met on our way an absolutely unfortunate young man- its appearance evokes associations with a lamb led to the slaughter. This is why they take us, stupid ones. It's a pity! I, of course, will be able to help him, poor thing, the woman thinks, I can also “spread the clouds”, and all so that at least a forced smile appears on his face. Will not appear! Believe me, a smile will not appear on his face, even if you put all the problems around the house on your fragile shoulders, even if he has a six-course restaurant dinner on his table every day. Global sorrow will never leave his face. No matter what happens: whether the neighbor’s bathhouse burned down, whether the neighbor’s dog died, or another revolution took place in Guatemala, he will suffer ... He carries the burden of life on his shoulders, showing how hard it is for him. I can guarantee you one hundred percent that at the beginning of your acquaintance, they will tell you a sad story about the first unsuccessful love that left an indelible imprint on the unfortunate ...

At the same time, this is a very interesting person, he writes thoughtful poems, composes music, creates good stories. He is able to squander a salary on a cell phone, while you do not have a single pair of shoes and you have to glue your heels with superglue or hem ribbons. At the same time, he is an incorrigible romantic who will dedicate ballads and songs to you, howl under the windows of your apartment, singing serenades and strumming on the guitar. Romance with him can take you very deep, so beware! You will leave and return again to the suffering singing and rattling of strings, you will be tormented by remorse for another six months after the break: they say, how could I leave such an unfortunate sufferer. And for another six months, at least, you will be bombarded with love messages, tearful songs and long mournful conversations in the evenings. Whether it is worth inventing or sucking problems out of your finger with such a person is up to you, but remember: his difficulties will always be yours, and a reliable stone wall, that is, a man who himself sees that you need to buy new tights, he, unfortunately, never will.

In this person you will find a toastmaster, an entertainer and the soul of the company. It is a liar, chatterer and laughter who flutters through life, not stopping at one flower longer than it takes to drink all the nectar. He is able to cook a romantic dinner for no reason at all, and at the most interesting place to break loose and leave to play billiards with friends. He can pick you up from work and take you out of town for a picnic without letting you change your clothes, and leave you in an unfamiliar company, rushing off to the city on urgent business. The bed for him is not yet a reason for dating, keep this in mind. At the same time, he will be gallant and courteous, will begin to pour compliments and admire your new earrings, in order to inform you in five minutes that the green T-shirt is fattening you. It is impossible to be angry with him, because his widest smile from ear to ear can melt any heart. But he is not very adapted to family life. He can tell his friends the details of your intimate life, but sincerely does not understand why you are angry with him. He will settle down only at the age of fifty, and even then with great difficulty. Well, if you are ready to wait such a long time, then this person is for you!

This man himself will decide what to wear, where to go, what to eat and drink. Forget about your personal opinion, time and principles. The latter will have to give up, because, according to the tyrant, there are only two opinions in the world: his and the wrong one. His instructions must be strictly followed by you, as they say, a step to the right, a step to the left - an attempt to escape, bouncing - an attempt to fly away, execution on the spot. You will have to forget about your gatherings with girlfriends, because other men can look at you in a cafe, and a tyrant will always perceive you as his property. The jealousy of such a person reaches the point of absurdity. The expression "he is jealous of me for lampposts" is just about him. At the same time, you should not throw a fight at him if he goes to drink beer in a bar with his best friends. Well, if he crawled home with them at three o'clock in the morning, then you are charged with the duty to get up and cook them a late dinner - or an early breakfast? - I don’t even know what a meal can be called at this time of day. For a tyrant you are nothing more than a domestic servant, and believe that he is greedy, like a miserly knight, he will demand receipts from you for all purchases made by you. Do not think that we are describing some kind of nightmarish character, one might say Bluebeard from a fairy tale. This is a real-life type of men, and I think that such a person is the most terrible, because he is able to completely kill a woman in a woman, turning her into a draft animal.

You definitely saw him. And not just once. It looks like a glossy picture from a glamorous magazine. Well-groomed, beautiful, elegant, looks good and can charm anyone. Such a man is from the breed of those who open and hold the door in front of the ladies, kiss hands when they meet, bring flowers and behave so naturally and pleasantly that it makes you want to be with him all your life. Fascinated by the gallantry of such a character, we sprinkle powdered sugar on our favorite image and completely stop noticing strange phone calls when someone breathes sadly into the phone and does not utter a word. Also, we do not notice that going to cafes and shops, where all the attendants make eyes at him, hurts your wallet, and not his wallet. He will tell you that you are his only one, that he understood this as soon as he saw you, however, do not be surprised if you find a lot of SMS messages from a lot of girls on his phone. Do not doubt that all your girlfriends will lay eyes on him. Be prepared for his meetings at work that drag on until 1:00 am, sleepovers with friends because "traffic is no longer running", strange smells of women's perfume on the shirt, lipstick on the clothes and excuses, excuses, excuses ...

“Open your mouths, tear off your hats, the boys-majors are scratching along the street!” Major is a very special category of men. This one is used to the fact that everything falls into his hands from the sky or appears in the morning on the bedside table, if he wished it in the evening. It's hard to get to know, but it's possible. It is difficult for those who work and spend little time on parties in clubs; simply - to those who practically live at these same get-togethers. But if you come across such a man on the way, be prepared for some small surprises. He loves to overspend money right and left, buying expensive gifts for you, driving you in an expensive car and inviting you to expensive restaurants. He dresses in the most fashionable stores, travels to the best resorts. His life is easy and carefree, so his mood is always upbeat, he did not encounter life's cataclysms, so if something happens to his well-being, he simply will not come up. Under the major, you need to adapt and pull yourself up if you are not a girl of his circle. You should always look at all three hundred percent, because against the background of those whom he sees daily, you can fade a little. You will have to be ready for constant parties and exclude any jealousy from your relationship. Major likes to drink well, he can get involved in light drugs. He is spoiled by female attention, used to permissiveness (this depends on the degree of wealth of the parents of the major). Such a man is not ready for family life, too many temptations around him do not allow him to do this. And, of course, the parents of the major are not ready to treat you very positively, and the first acquaintance with them can turn into a horror movie, especially if you take into account the fact that they have a huge influence on their son, manipulating him with money. You should not expect that he will leave the arranged life in order to find paradise with you in your hut, although I cannot but note that such cases have happened ...

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So, we have come to the final part of our classification of men. And now let's look at one more, the last type. This is A real man. It is to him that we are most disposed, since he is the most worthy candidate for the role of husband, father and head of the future family.

A REAL MAN

Well, what can I say, my dear ladies? Such men in our country, and throughout the world, are slowly dying out, as once, in prehistoric times, pterodactyls died out.

What are they? Smart - they are educated and easily adapt to any circumstances. Funny - they have a great sense of humor, completely natural, their jokes are harmless and self-critical. Easy-going - they do not have to tearfully beg to go to the store for potatoes. Independent - they themselves can perfectly cook their own dinner, if you are too lazy to do it, they themselves can stretch their things, if you did not have time, they themselves can choose a thing for themselves in the store. Hardworking - they successfully advance in the service and overcome difficulties with calm self-confidence.

In such a man, the hands grow exactly from the place from which they are supposed to grow, therefore, with his arrival in your house, everything suddenly stops dripping, falling off, creaking and coughing. He is charming - even your grandmother, who is a candidate of philological sciences, and maybe even a university professor, and who with the apt expression "not right" characterized your former gentlemen, in this case will open her mouth in surprise and look meaningfully at you. Attentive, caring and generous - he will see that you have an arrow on tights, and immediately buy you new ones. Mysteriously, he will see that you are running out of a tube of lipstick and will drag you to the store for shopping. He can even buy you personal hygiene items on his own, if you urgently need it, without being embarrassed at all.

He is not very verbose, but behind him is like behind a stone wall. He will not promise you stars from the sky, but will simply throw a mink coat on your shoulders at one fine moment, lead you to the car he bought for you and put a ring on your finger.

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So, dear ladies, perhaps the time has come for advice on catching and further taming the Real Man. Forward!

The science of seduction

Rule #1

SMILE, OR ABOUT HOW A SMILE TRANSFORMS

Men love optimists. And what best shows you who you are? That's right, smile. Moreover, the widest and most beautiful - which immediately shows that everything is fine with you and life has turned to you with its bright side.

Agree that a smiling girl is not at all what she is, but with a sour expression on her face. Of course, men first look at their legs, ass, chest, and only then at their face, but if, having appreciated all your charms, they also see a charming smile, then ... It will hardly be possible to resist here.

Smiling is not just a movement of the facial muscles. Scientists have proven that it cheers up, even when tortured. And, of course, you yourself have noticed more than once that if you smile at a person with all your heart, then he begins to do the same. And it brings you closer. So, if you want to please the people around you, including the object of your matrimonial plans, you need to learn how to smile.

Naturally, you must not forget, my dear ones, that in order for your smile to strike his, the teeth should be white, even and beautiful. It is not for us to teach you how to use toothpaste and brush. For more serious problems, for example, to correct an overbite or whiten your teeth, you should consult a dentist. The only thing that can be said for sure about this is that you need to do it! The smile is yours business card, you must know for sure that with your pearls everything is in in perfect order- to smile to your heart's content without worrying that something is wrong in your mouth.

In order for your smile not to be the same type, I advise you to practice in front of the mirror, coming up with a whole arsenal of smiles for all occasions. You must be able to smile playfully, with a hint, cheerfully, sadly, smile broadly, with your whole mouth or just with the corners of your lips. You must learn to smile like a child who first came to an amusement park, or like a middle-aged woman wise in life, like a playful coquette and like a vamp. Try on all those images that appeal to you, and smile. Mona Lisa's smile, so light and feminine, mysterious and seductive, should densely settle on your face. I know that at first it is not easy, but patience and work will grind everything! Start your day with a smile to yourself and end it the same way. You will immediately notice how the attitude of others around you will change and how your attitude to the world around you will change! After all, it is you, and not someone else, walking smiling in a crowd of people loaded with work and their thoughts, which means is he will notice you, and not someone else.

Rule #2

“SHE PASSED LIKE A CARAVE...”, OR ABOUT HOW THE GAIT DECORATES

Gait... There are legends about the ideal gait, and the lucky ones who possess it are considered beauties, even if God did not reward them with a spectacular appearance. We want to conquer men, so we can easily learn to walk beautifully and sexy. After all, we are no worse than Marilyn Monroe - by all accounts, the owner of the most beautiful walk.

Surely you have seen more than once how Madame marches down the street in heels, which rearranges her limbs as if she had a Spanish boot on her feet, by golly. High heels, undoubtedly lengthen your legs, but you also need to walk on them correctly. Your gait should be flying, graceful and attracting everyone's attention. You should not wag your hips very actively while walking, this will lead others to the idea that you are not all right with your ankle. But don't go too tight either.

The choice of shoes is of great importance.

The shoe should first of all be comfortable, not press, not rub and be suitable in size. You should not buy shoes with heels the height of the Eiffel Tower - it is difficult to walk in such shoes at all, not to mention a beautiful walk. The instep of your shoes should be comfortable for the foot, the foot should not dangle or, on the contrary, be too tight in it.

When walking, your shoulders should be proudly straightened, and not drooping, as if you were beaten (by the way, during the training period, many ballerinas had a pushpin stuck to their backs that stuck into their backs as soon as they relaxed and hunched over - maybe you should take this into service ?).

Walk proud! Feel like a queen who floats among her subjects, create an inner mood that helps you feel it, and go ahead.

If you are not absolutely sure about the correctness of your walking, it is worth practicing in front of a mirror. You will need a wooden square bar, smooth, not very high. Place it on the floor in front of a mirror, put on your heeled shoes, and start walking back and forth on it until you feel absolutely confident. The leg should step freely and straight, not bending at the knee as if you decided to squat on the go, the back should be straightened, the head raised, the stomach pulled in. Even if you are dressed in jeans and a T-shirt, your royal walk will be on the level and will immediately attract his Attention.

Under no circumstances should you shuffle, mince, raise your feet too high, clubfoot, or march. You must walk as if you are about to take off, as if wings are spread behind your back, which make you weightless.

With a little practice and desire, the effort will help you achieve the walk of your dreams. After all, we have something to strive for and something to achieve!

Rule #3

"OH, WHAT A WOMAN ...", OR ABOUT SCHIC AND SHINE

In today's world, a beautiful woman is one who can buy a Dolce & Gabbana dress and walk around in Versace shoes. Unfortunately, not all of us are the children of millionaires and not all of us work in large firms, but your modest earnings cannot be an excuse for you to walk around in an incomprehensible combination of a green sweater and mom's red trousers. You are a woman - a representative of the beautiful half of humanity, and should - especially for a loved one - look beautiful and sexy.

“What, what, what are our girls made of?..” I think it's no secret to anyone that clothes change people very much. Whether you like the way you look affects your mood. But you need to dress in a way that makes you comfortable and comfortable. You should not follow the crowd and wear exclusively fashionable things if they are uncomfortable and you do not like it. Your clothes should be matched, should not be defiant or funny. It should favorably set off your strengths and hide your flaws. Do not forget about accessories that can now be found anywhere. They favorably focus people's attention on different parts of your body. For example, a beautiful belt, metal or leather, can highlight a thin waist, a bracelet will decorate an elegant ankle, correctly selected earrings will focus men's attention on small ears. Improvise and invent!

Now let's move on to the overall look. Your clothes should be neat, clean, ironed, and smell good. To do this, do not be lazy to hang it on a coat hanger, air it on the balcony. Choose light perfumes, and do not assume that “the more the better”, this does not work in the case of perfume. Makeup should match the occasion, not be defiant, too bright. Hair should be clean, well-groomed, styled and shiny. General principle: more naturalness in your appearance.

You should not overdo it with wardrobe details: you should also have strict office items in it, the stiffness of which you can dilute with jewelry, properly selected beads, a belt, and something light, airy, very feminine; denim clothes that are always fashionable should also be available. Do not be afraid to experiment, combining things that at first glance are incompatible. Most importantly, be confident in yourself and don't be afraid to be a little different from others. Not fashion should dictate terms to you, but you should be its creator. Develop your own style that will help you feel good in any company.

And finally: nails, of course, should be clean. On the legs - processed and made up with a neutral varnish. On the hands - without burrs, in no case gnawed or broken off. If you want them to be long - periodically visit a manicure parlor, the main thing is that they are always clean, shiny and well-groomed.

Rule #4

"BITCH, BITCH, BITTER...", OR ABOUT HOW IT IS NECESSARY

Ah, bitches... How many words have been said about them, but you can't get away - our men love such inaccessible and cynical mademoiselles! So we will change. Of course, not to the level of Cleopatra, who killed her lovers immediately after spending the night with them, but we will not remain at the level of the “house chicken” either. In general, we are looking for the perfect option!

Yes, it's really necessary! Well, imagine that you come home, and you are met by a person who can forgive you all your sins, up to treason. You and this person feel good, calm, but ... bored! It's all covered in icing, all so sugary, all so angelic - next to it you start to feel just like a scoundrel.

Here is a man who constantly hears the words “yes, dear, of course, dear, as you say, dear”, after a while he gets fed up and wants to get a portion of pepper.

So how can you become the “perfect” bitch?

First of all, you must love, respect and adore yourself. Remember that you are alone in the world, there is no other like it and there never will be. Firstly, you are a full-fledged person and have the right to personal opinion, delusions, and so on, and secondly, you are a woman and have the right to whims. The bitch will never run after a man if he leaves, because he knows for sure that he will return again. She is completely confident in her rightness, in her beauty and strength. She can always stand up for herself and looks at the world around her with complete self-confidence. She will never and never prove her case, she will simply do as she sees fit.

Remember that you are a Woman, which means that you have the right to “sterism”, within reasonable limits, of course.

You shouldn't hang yourself him on the neck, you should condescend to a man, and not adapt to him.

You don't have to do laundry, cook, and clean if you want to get your nails done or go to a beauty salon.

You should do it when you feel like it, and not after you wash, cook, wash.

A bitch will never forget to buy new clothes for herself and will not refuse to go with her friends to a new cafe to try rolls, or to a trendy club.

She never misses the opportunity to indicate that she is popular, that she is pretty and enjoys the attention of men.

This makes a man nervous and, of course, react accordingly, trying not to lose sight of you and putting up with your little ladies' weaknesses.

So, at times we all have to become bitches, but do not forget that everything is good in moderation, there should be a harmonious balance everywhere that will help you determine the moment when it is worth harming and when not.

Remember, you are the only one, and therefore love and respect yourself!

Rule #5

“IN THE CORNER, ON THE NOSE, ON THE OBJECT!”, OR TO LOOK CORRECTLY ABOUT ART

Who doesn't know that you can easily attract a man with just a glimpse of him? Yes, probably everyone is familiar, but not everyone knows how to correctly apply the “perfect look” rule. And in vain, because it easy way capture the attention of a man.

Remember how the heroine of Irina Muravyova taught her friends exactly how to look at the “object” so that he was intrigued by you and immediately wanted to get to know you? “In the corner, on the nose, on the object!” - here is a well-known formula that can help you in the art of seduction.

A woman's look... Mysterious and mysterious, sung by poets and captured in the paintings of great artists... So what should be the look that enchants and makes a man's heart beat faster?

Like a smile, a woman's look should be different. Let's try to give examples.

Children's - eyes wide open, look childishly amazed, trusting and pure. This is the look of a child coming to Disneyland for the first time.

Languid - the look of a coquette who is already fed up with everything in this world, prompting a man to prove that he is not like everyone else, and with him you will gain a new interest in life.

Shining is the look of a happy, confident woman who knows her worth.

Intriguing - such when you look a man straight in the eyes and smile mysteriously. No young person can resist the temptation to understand what you are smiling at.

Angry - this look should indicate the depth of your indignation with something or someone.

Cheerful - you are having fun, and your eyes express it. Do not think about wrinkles and other nonsense.

Sad - if you feel sad, feel free to show it too. Not a single man will pass indifferently before the sad look turned to him.

Let me remind you that your look, your eyes are a mirror of the soul, and since the soul is multifaceted and limitless in its beauty, you should have many views. Rehearse them in front of a mirror. And in order for your eyes to be expressive, you should learn the art of applying makeup. To do this, you can take a make-up course. It will take very little time, but will bring you great benefits. Eyelashes should be fluffy, not stuck together from mascara, eyes should not be red; in relieving fatigue, you will be helped by medications to eliminate redness of the eyes, as well as used tea bags. They should be put on the eyes in case of their redness and lie down a little while relaxing, and then there will be no trace of the problem! Shadows should not lie in lumps, and makeup should be appropriate for the place and time. I repeat: do not paint too brightly, it scares away, makeup should be natural.

Rule #6

"FANTASTIC, SIMPLY FANTASTIC!", OR ABOUT HOW TO MOVE

What is perfect girl in the understanding of men? Well, firstly, beautiful, secondly, slender, thirdly, elegant and graceful. You must have heard about the comparison of a woman with a panther and a gazelle? So, since men like these, we change in accordance with their preferences.

“The plasticity of the panther before the jump” - I remember that this is how the secretary taught the formidable and forgotten about what femininity is, the boss in the famous movie “Office Romance”. Yes, a lot depends on our plastic surgery. Of course, those women and girls who were sent to dances by their parents in childhood are lucky, they definitely have everything in order with plastic surgery! But what about us, those who do not often go to dances and discos? You need to make your body graceful! if you have free time and opportunity to attend classes. oriental dances then do it. For those who are deprived of such an opportunity, I offer several recipes to improve your plasticity. So, we need a tape recorder, a couple of favorite songs and a small mat for classes.

To begin with, lying on the mat, completely relax. Then imagine that your body is an elastic substance that you can control in any way you need. Raise the pelvis off the ground and move it in different directions. Do this procedure several times. Imagine that a wave is passing through your body, and it is very pleasant for you, it is so pleasant that you are moving after the wave, creating it again. Roll onto your side and try to feel that wave again.

Get on the mat and relax your arms, legs, whole body. Try to run a wave through your belly from top to bottom. Of course, you won’t succeed the first time, but if you learn, you will soon be able to amaze everyone with the movements of your tummy - at the same time strengthen your abdominal muscles and find a beautiful press.

And this exercise will help you learn how to move your hips beautifully, as well as strengthen the muscles of your waist and help make it more expressive. Just like in the previous exercise, you will have to stand on the mat, straighten up and try to pass a wave through your body, but if in the first exercise it went through your body from top to bottom, then in this case you will need to let it go from one side to another. Feel like a snake that gets rid of the old skin, appearing before the outside world in a new dress. Feel every muscle, every curve of your body. After a while, you will notice that your movements become more graceful and more attractive to men.

The plasticity of your body is as important as your look, smile, and so on, because only in a combination of parts can we see one harmonious whole. Take care of yourself and do it with joy!

You are together

Rule #7

"MY FIRST DATE...", OR HOW TO ACCEPT INVITATIONS AND GO ON DATES

You met, and he seems ideal to you male beauty. Having succumbed to your charm, the prince is ready to invite you on a date. Ah, you're probably already rolling your eyes coyly and then abruptly start squealing with delight. Or maybe you shouldn't react so emotionally to his words? We want to attract him even more, and not scare him away. Therefore, we calm down and react correctly.

So, it's finally done! You charmed him with your smiles, grace and other virtues, which you have innumerable. Finally, he looks soulfully into your eyes and utters the cherished phrase: "Let's meet!" Stop. Do not shout at the whole Ivanovo: "Yes!" - and do not start frantically asking him where, when, and even more so where you will go with him. Let a man remain a man and be the first to say where he would like to go with you. At this moment, you should kindly, absolutely calmly look into his eyes and smile. This is not the first and not the last date in your life, you should not show him that you only dreamed about this. A man should feel that you are a girl in demand and you will not be surprised by a date. After he vividly describes to you where he is inviting you, you can simply and calmly answer: “Yes.” For God's sake, don't be coy and don't say: “Oh, well, I don't really know what to say, I have so many things to do tomorrow, I'm all so busy, hee hee ...” Keep it simple, coquetry is inappropriate now. If you can go on a date with him, say, tomorrow at six in the evening, then calmly say: “Yes” - and wait for her, this very first meeting. Remember that this is just a date, and the calmer and more confident you are, the more likely it is that he will not take you for a stupid girl for whom this is the first time, or for a clamped gray mouse who simply does not know what to do in this situation.

Of course, it is worth preparing for a date, but God forbid you put on something provocative. Everything should be in moderation.

You should also not listen to the opinion that a girl should be fifteen minutes late for dates. In most cases, the male half is annoying, so it's better to show up for a date on time. The most you can afford is a five minute delay.

On a date, be calm and confident. Even if something suddenly went wrong and your mascara suddenly smeared, treat it with humor and do not dwell on it. If your companion is a normal man, he will understand your problem and will not judge you, moreover, he will certainly try to cheer you up. And the last thing - do not be afraid of anything, because, believe me, he is even more afraid!

Rule #8

“AND IN A RESTAURANT, AND IN A RESTAURANT...”, OR ABOUT HOW TO BEHAVE IN PUBLIC PLACES

You are on your first date together. Time to think about manners. A woman who does not observe the rules of decency is a terrible sight. Of course, you should not follow etiquette meticulously, but you should not forget about the basic rules of good manners. Look intelligent, but by no means stiff.

So, you must go to a restaurant.

When sitting at a table, do not move too close to it, but do not sit too far away either. Do not rest your elbows on the table. Secular etiquette allows ladies to briefly lower their wrists on him.

Don't speak with a full mouth. Do not wave your arms, especially when holding cutlery. If during a meal you want to free your hands for a while, lower the cutlery “house” on both sides on the edges of the plate, but in no case on the tablecloth.

Do not switch the fork from one hand to the other. Don't blow on the hot soup, just wait a bit for it to cool down. Some dishes cannot be eaten without the help of hands. In this case, you will be provided with a rinse - a container with aromatic water, which may contain lemon slices or pieces of fruit (do not confuse it with compote!).

Before you smoke (in establishments where it is customary), ask permission from the man sitting at the same table with you. Don't smoke if he hasn't finished eating yet. The aroma of gourmet food mixed with the smog of your cigarettes is not a very great pleasure.

Don't forget to blot your lips with a tissue each time you're about to take a sip. Otherwise, traces of sauce or lipstick will be imprinted on the glass.

A girl should not lay out the contents of her handbag (comb, scarf, powder box, etc.) on the table. Remember: you can’t, it’s simply strictly forbidden at the dinner table, in front of a mirror in the hallway of a restaurant, to comb your hair, powder, paint your lips, and so on. To bring yourself back to normal, go to the restroom, the location of which you can ask the staff in a low voice.

Let's sincerely hope that these are enough simple rules will help you not lose face in front of your companion and leave in him a strong desire to meet you again.

Rule #9

“DO NOT STICK...”, OR ABOUT THAT YOU SHOULD NOT BE PARTICULARLY OBSESSIVE

You spent time together, and, of course, now you really want to continue your relationship. But you shouldn't talk about it to a man. He has his own personal opinion about you, and if it is very good - "sticking" with questions like "Well, when will we meet again?" might scare him. Be smart and wait.

So, you spent a great evening together in a restaurant or strolled through the park - in general, your first date is almost over. He walked you home. You say goodbye. This is where the hardest part starts. If after parting a kiss follows, then it does not mean anything at all. In no case are you obliged to invite this man home if you yourself do not want it. We are against intimacy on the first date, and this is not at all because we belong to the category of hypocrites. It just happens very often that a man who has received a trophy without a fight ceases to be interested in further hunting, and the first date becomes the last. You should also not ask him about when he will call you or when you will see each other next. You should not impose yourself on anyone, in the end, it is he who conquers you (even if, in any case, at least he thinks so).

You say goodbye, thank him for the wonderful minutes spent, politely say that you liked everything, you can discuss some moments of the meeting that especially delighted you.

If he does not call you the next morning, do not moan and cry, he can do it in the evening. If the call does not follow for three or four days, it is permissible to call yourself. However, the conversation should not be reduced to your hints for a second meeting.

If you don’t hear the enthusiasm in his voice and feel that he wants to get rid of you with phrases like “I’ll call you back in the week,” say goodbye politely and correctly and don’t call this man back - if he needs it, he will definitely let you know. Well, if not, it's not a big deal, he's not the last guy on the planet! In any case, behave with the utmost dignity and do not call him yourself a hundred times a day.

Well, if he calls you back that same evening or sets up a second date right after the first one, then you can be congratulated: he is interested in you, you have already found a common language, and he wants to see you again. And that means what? That we have achieved our goal and interested him. In this case, you agree, but you choose the entertainment program yourself - of course, coordinating your desires with the young man. In any case, be calm, benevolent and behave as if everything in this moment happens - absolutely normal and familiar to you. Do not strain, do not be nervous, you will succeed and everything will be just fine!

Rule #10

"GET TO KNOW, DEAR ...", OR GET TO KNOW HIS RELATIVES

So, you've been together for a while, and he's ready to introduce you to his family. What's scary? In vain! His relatives are the same people as you, and they will not throw their fists at you for sure. Do not take the stories that the mother of a beloved man always does not love his bride as true. Not always. Most often, the son's girlfriend is loved and accepted as his daughter - unless, of course, you yourself spoil everything.

Wow, you say, this is the worst thing you can think of at all - meeting parents, sisters, brothers and so on! In fact, this is also quite common. Although, I do not argue, you will still be shaking with fear.

So what do you need? Calmness, as always, self-confidence. Well, you will have to call on your sense of humor to help.

How should you look? I think that you should not overdo it with girlish ponytails, a gray knee-length skirt and a tightly buttoned blouse. The mother of your chosen one will surely understand that such a look is a disguise, after all, she herself once met her husband's parents. But don't go to extremes - "neckline to the navel" and a patch on the priest, personifying a skirt, are also inappropriate and may even offend your alleged future mother-in-law.

Surely your prospective future father-in-law will also be found in the house - he should smile with your signature smile and say hello politely.

In conversation with his parents, pay attention to both his father and mother. It often happens that your boyfriend's mother tries to capture your attention entirely, and dad silently smokes or drinks tea. Contact them with questions, do not be silent, but ask with interest and to the point.

Be sure to praise the dishes offered to you and appreciate the decoration of the house in which you are.

If your chosen one has a brother or sister who is much younger than him and is currently smoothly entering teenage years, - be careful. During this period, teenagers are able to do dirty tricks, and here it is important to quickly win them over. Take an interest in what he (she) likes to listen to, find any match in tastes and build on it. Ask about school, about friends, talk until he (she) starts to answer, and the first bridge of your further friendship will be built!

If there is a dog or cat in the house, be sure to stroke it, but never do this if you are squeamish. An imperceptible gesture - you wipe your hands on your trousers or skirt, after petting the animal - will not hide from the sharp eyes of your hero's mother and is unlikely to please her. Well, if you yourself had and have animals in your house, you can safely stroke and even take them in your arms, look at the situation: how is it customary in this family. You can tell a few stories about your pets, this topic will be interesting for you and for those present. Do not be afraid, and you will succeed!

Rule #11

“GET TO KNOW, DEAR ...”, OR GET TO KNOW YOUR RELATIVES

So, you met his relatives. Now the next step is getting to know your family. The main thing is not to spoil his impression of "yours" and their impression of him - after all, you plan to marry him, and they will have to communicate a lot.

First of all, you should warn your relatives that a young man who is important to you will come to visit you, so that they can prepare well. You should not prepare dinner for a hundred people, so that literally before the guest arrives, hectically rushing around the rooms, winding curlers and managing to paint his eyes with one hand and set the table with the other. Prepare a few dishes that you have always done well, that are done quickly and do not require a lot of effort. Call on your sister or mother for help and, most importantly, do not be nervous and forbid them to worry.

At the moment when the doorbell rings, everything should be completely ready - you are made up and beautiful, your sister is combed, mom is dressed, dad is shod. You should meet the young man at the door, as he knows you, and your relatives are not very good, so you should not leave him alone. Introduce your chosen one to his father (he, as the head of the family, should be introduced first), then to his mother, sister (brother).

After that, the gentleman can be taken to the table and seated where it will be most convenient for him to see each family member. You should sit next to him in order to support him in an unforeseen situation in case of difficulty.

Do not stand during the standard questions asked by your parents like “Where do you work?” or “Where did you study?” step in and take responsibility for it. After all, he is not dumb and is quite capable of answering the questions he is asked on his own. Your task is to create the most relaxed atmosphere at the table. The conversation should not touch on religion, politics, or some other topic that will captivate only one member of the family, while the rest will be out of work at this time. It is better to talk about what everyone understands, direct your conversation in such a way that everyone can put in their word and feel comfortable.

After the “introductory” lunch, you can walk the streets, if the season allows it, or relax in the armchairs. It is better not to turn on the TV, it is distracting.

The whole family should also see off your gentleman - wish him good luck, thank him for dinner and invite your chosen one to come again.

Kissing him or not at parting is up to you, but an innocent kiss on the cheek or a light peck on the lips will cheer him up and relieve stress, so it’s better to do it anyway. Good luck!

Rule #12

BEST FRIEND, OR HOW TO GET TO KNOW HIS FRIENDS

Friends are separate category people with whom you should definitely make friends. Firstly, of course, they influence the opinion of a young man more than the family, and secondly, it is much more pleasant to become one of their own in their company than to sit and be silent, not understanding what they are talking about. “Tell me who your friend is, and I will tell you who you are” - and if so, then his friends are part of him, and you can negotiate with them.

The best friend... This, in general, is even cooler than your parents, the company of your young man may or may not accept you, and then a long siege will be needed... Well, be afraid of wolves - do not go into the forest, and since you've decided to get to know his friends, his company, check out these few tips.

Meet your man's best friend with a smile. A strong, energetic handshake and a broad smile immediately put a person to you. It’s not worth talking a lot, although I know from my own experience that being silent at such moments is simply unbearable torment, and it’s almost impossible to overcome the desire to start chattering: “Oh, he talked so much about you, I imagined you like that!” Words are silver, silence is gold. Let yourself be more mysterious.

And never, you hear, never flirt with his best friend. Do not make eyes, do not succumb to provocations, if any. Even if you quarreled, he left you alone for a long time or some other problem arose - do not try to do this. Everything in this world is changing, your reputation is a fragile thing, and ruining it is a matter of two minutes, but it will take many years to restore it.

If you're joking, joke about the topic; if you are not sure - do not joke, so as not to be considered a fool. God forbid you to speak vulgarities, to giggle nervously or shrillly. If you find it funny, laugh, but not very loudly. Your laughter should be harmonious, as well as your outfit, and the whole appearance.

At the end of the "evening of meetings" you should thank your boyfriend's friend for a pleasant evening, it is permissible to kiss him on the cheek and smile sweetly. In any case, you should tell your young man that you really liked the evening and: “Darling, this is a very decent young man. Of course, he cannot be compared with you, but it is very pleasant to communicate with him!”

Rule #13

“TODAY I WILL COOK!”, OR THE FIRST CANDLIGHT DINNER

Men are romantics, no matter what they say. Everyone will appreciate a delicious dinner, candles and quiet music. Think over the details, and he is at your feet, and there is still a little bit left before the cherished offer.

Candlelight dinner is a great way to take a relationship from friendship to romance. It must happen unexpectedly. You can invite your young man to come to you in the evening, as if by chance. And then lead him into a room where candles are shining, a table is laid and there is a bottle of wine. And you can do it all differently. Invite him to walk under the moon on a beautiful evening and take him to a secluded place where your forewarned friends have prepared everything necessary. Everything, of course, depends on your imagination, but the first romantic dinner should be original and unusual.

If your boyfriend decided to please you on his own and invited you to dinner, you need to find out where he will take you and what you should wear. If the dinner will be in a restaurant, please refer to Rule Number Eight. But if he invites you to his place, you just need to relax. However, this should not be taken as a call to be cheeky or, God forbid, to abuse alcohol. You are allowed to drink one or two glasses of wine or champagne. It is necessary to eat carefully prepared by the caring hands of a young man, not forgetting to praise and evaluate his culinary exploits. You must be absolutely calm and confident. Your grace and femininity should win him over and make him want to continue this evening. The most important thing is to tune in to the same wavelength with your young man, penetrate into his soul and lead your conversation in such a way that he feels the complete unity of your souls.

After a couple of drinks, you can ask him to dance (unless, of course, he does this before), so you can get even closer to him and get into his "intimate" space. Gently stroke his back, cling to him so that he feels like your protector, your knight. Light kisses, gentle hugs will lead him to the desire to continue the evening in the bedroom, and here you will have to decide again - if you don’t want intimacy today or you think it’s too early, don’t force yourself. Well, if you are ready to continue, then you are welcome to the next piece of advice.

Rule #14

“Wouldn’t it be time for us to go?”, OR THE FIRST NIGHT TOGETHER

You have come close to intimate in a relationship. Soon the first night together. For everything to go perfectly, you need to think through all the details and calm down. Be natural and relaxed. Don't comment on his actions or joke about his abilities.

The first joint night is a real test for two people in a very important matter, sex. You should not rely on enchanting sensations, this happens extremely rarely, because on the first night a man and a woman only rub against each other, recognize the partner’s body, his preferences. These moments are very difficult. When a person undresses, he becomes defenseless and appears before his partner as, sorry, his mother gave birth. It's a little daunting. Your task is to make your young man feel confident and comfortable with you. Beautiful underwear, stockings, enthusiasm in the eyes and a playful smile will help you with this. The main thing is to be absolutely not afraid of anything and not to constantly think about where you “damn cellulite got out again” or a wrinkle appeared ...

Naturally, I would like to remind you that your body should emit exceptionally pleasant smells, so that nothing could embarrass and pinch you yourself. You must feel like a goddess, Aphrodite, who can seduce any man.

Be prepared for the fact that your man may have a slight misfire - you should not immediately write down the poor fellow as impotent. This can happen to anyone. First of all, from excitement - he probably likes you very much, and he wants to make the most favorable impression on you.

The next reason may be overwork, if he just overworked.

Or maybe your partner just has sexual contact with a woman for the first time, do not be surprised, this also happens.

So, in this situation, you should not be scared or nervous. Give him a relaxing massage, pour a glass of wine and act like everything is absolutely fine, and after he relaxes and stops thinking about his mistake, everything should be fine for you.

The main thing is not to sharpen Special attention on the current situation. Talk to him about something extraneous, take the conversation in another direction, and in the meantime, continue your caresses and kisses until you feel that he is ready to show you everything he is capable of.

Be relaxed and natural, go ahead and drag him along with you!

Rule #15

"STAY WITH US, BOY, BE OUR KING", OR THE FIRST MORNING TOGETHER

A night together is great! And then what? Morning, when first of all you think about your face and unbrushed teeth. In vain - calm down, cook breakfast, and everything will be fine. Just do not immediately transfer a bathrobe and a towel to his apartment. Wait - and everything will clear up by itself.

Before writing this, we interviewed several dozen men and received simply stunning data. It turns out that they like sleepy women with hair tousled after a stormy night, and it turns out that no one pays attention to the lack of makeup and unbrushed teeth. So do not worry if, after your first night together, he wakes up before you. Well, if you wake up earlier, I still advise you to brush your teeth and comb your hair, and then cook breakfast - the first cup of high-quality brewed coffee and morning scrambled eggs with bacon will immediately bring your gentleman back to normal, and the morning will become shining for him. All this food can be served to him right in bed and you yourself can crawl under a warm blanket in order to enjoy the last pleasant moments before work.

But here comes the most disgusting moment of the morning - farewell. Don't act like it was your last night together. Just gently kiss him goodbye and wish him a good day. Theoretically, he should tell you when he calls you, or immediately appoint a place for today's meeting. If he did not do this, do not panic, perhaps he is now frightened by everything that happened, and he has not yet fully realized what it was.

If the meeting and the following night took place at his place, we do not cancel breakfast, but we try not to linger in his apartment. It would be better if you leave his house before he does it himself. A kiss goodbye is welcome.

Ask him to pick you up at work and look at the reaction - if he happily agrees and asks where to drive, and is not even interested in what you will do, then everything is in order. He liked you, he is delighted with you. If he starts mumbling something about the fact that he has a lot of work today and he won’t be able to, and it’s also unlikely tomorrow, just politely thank him for the pleasantly spent leisure time and leave. Do not ask him what he did not like and why he is so dismissive of you. Just leave. If he needs to, he will call you. Well, if not, then it's not worth much attention. The most important thing in such a situation is to behave with dignity. In any case, you spent a great evening and night together, so do not be upset. Remember: this is not the last man in your life.

If everything goes as it should, wait for the evening and run quickly to a new date with your chosen one, shining with your eyes and teeth!

Rule #16

"CALL ME, CALL ...", OR ABOUT HOW TO TALK TO HIM ON THE PHONE

When the telephone was invented, they did not think that this technical achievement would become an occasion for resentment and quarrels. “Oh, you didn’t call me in the promised half an hour!”, “We talk so little when you call!” Funny and ridiculous? But these are the main phrases from the conversations of a woman in love. Do not make mistakes and talk about nonsense. Men are different, they do not like to listen to nonsense and call only on business.

Often a woman, and even more so a woman in love, can call her beloved hundreds of times on the phone. First of all, this comes from the desire to control him: what and with whom he does. Believe me, my dear, it will not lead to anything good. A man is a creature who needs to feel his complete freedom, and intrusive calls during a meeting or an important meeting are just very annoying. Men do not know how to communicate on the phone the way we do, dear ladies. They are concise and do not tend to rant and almond. Of course, a man who has certain feelings for you will not bark and phone you... the first thirty times... in a day. But if you abuse his patience, everything can end sadly.

You must learn to manipulate your voice - it must be inviting, inviting, but at the same time completely calm. Your man should relax when he hears you, not tense up.

You need to call your man no more than once or twice a day. You need to talk either about the two of you, or only about him. Do not talk about "Irochka, who bought such an awesome table for the kitchen! ..". He is not interested. He is interested in what you will be doing tonight. And to make him want the end of the working day even more, hint to him that today you are wearing simply breathtaking underwear and you dream that he would take it off as soon as possible. Then you can turn on the fantasy and tell him exactly what you want him to do with you, and what exactly you will do for him. Your man will appreciate your fantasy, and all his work problems will immediately go to another plane.

In general, you should not “load” a man on the phone. He needs to know that you are the woman he can call without fear that you are in a bad mood. You, my dears, must always have good mood. You shouldn't dump your worries on him.

Be sincerely interested in what he is doing, so as not to ask, for the sake of formality, how he is doing, anticipating the answer “fine”. Try to talk about what he is really interested in, cheer him up, promise him something interesting at the end of the working day, and he himself will call you almost every five minutes.

And remember, in no case do not try to control him and constantly call with the question: “Where are you?” Do not whine, do not whine, do not cry, and then your man will definitely be sure that he made the right choice.

Rule #17

“AND ONLY A CAT WALKS BY ITSELF...”, OR ABOUT INDEPENDENCE

Love addiction is a common thing. We must not forget about ourselves. You are an interesting person. Do not forget about your hobbies, friends. The fact that you want to marry him does not mean that for the sake of this lofty goal it is worth spending every second with him. You have your free time, which you should spend for your own pleasure, but only without it.

Have you ever been told heartbreaking stories about how “she looked him right in the mouth, lived by him, and he, a scoundrel, went to such a bitch, to such a bitch - she doesn’t put him in a penny! ..”? Never wondered why is he gone from a fool completely dissolved in his affairs and worries to an independent bitch? And here we will tell you why! Precisely because the fool had no other interests in life, except for socks, underpants and breakfasts with dinners of her missus. So, my dear, it is absolutely impossible to do! Each of us is unique. However, some of us believe that if they, like a sticky fish, stick to their beloved and live exclusively his life, he will appreciate and be only with her, and never leave her because of this. It's not like that at all. People are interested in being together only if they can communicate with each other on an equal footing, can discuss everything that is happening around. No man is interested in hearing exclusively about socks, borscht and talking only about his work. At first - yes, he is pleased to receive everything clean, ironed, tasty. And then he ceases to perceive you as a person and begins to see you as his house slippers who know how to cook.

Hence the advice. Be independent! You have to - no, you just have to! - constantly expand your horizons, constantly find some new facets of your nature! Do something you can't do is he. Try to find an activity that will increase your self-esteem: if you have a creative gift, do not get lost, try writing notes for glossy magazines, go to dances to go to performances, visit exhibitions and fashion shows, hang out with friends. And kill yourself on the nose: you must have your own, completely separate source of income. You should not ask him for money if he himself does not offer it to you: this is humiliating and significantly lowers your young man's opinion of you. You can completely provide yourself with everything you need, and you don’t have to think that a man was created to provide you with what you need, give money to beauty salons and take you to restaurants, but you have to accept all this and do nothing else. . This is a wrong opinion, and it does not lead to good. Nothing is more repulsive than idleness, inertia of thinking and mental laziness. If you want to be respected, be independent!

Rule #18

“MAKE UP, MAKE UP, MAKE UP...”, OR ABOUT THE ART OF CORRECTLY MAKE UP

Not everyone is good at reconciliation. Everyone considers himself right and does not want to back down. But you must! Besides, it's probably for you. By coming first, you will win in everything: you will prove that you love, show your compliance and, no matter how hard it is to admit it, accept the fact that you were wrong. In general, quarrel by the rules.

So you got into a fight. Well, that happens to every couple too. The most important thing is to analyze who is right and who is wrong in this situation. Remember everything you said to him and what he said to you. Mutual reproaches during a quarrel are inevitable - usually claims are held back until they reach their climax and pour out at the most inopportune moment. Each of you must have said a lot of things that you would not want to say, and now you are both suffering. Usually the problem with reconciliation is that neither you nor he knows exactly how to reconcile.

We advise you to do this: if the quarrel was due to some little thing, for example, he did not feed your cat, refused to bring coffee to bed, or you were jealous of the blonde who beeped him from her Peugeot when you were driving home, then business, by golly, is not worth a damn. Most quarrels occur because a woman is more emotional and it is difficult for her to restrain herself. Without thinking, we express our grievances, while he is silent in a rag. We are inflamed and brought to the point that and is he begins to ask: what do you want, screaming creature?

If the situation was just that - feel free to call him, invite him to a meeting and calmly sort out your conflict. Explain to your young man what exactly upset you, strained you, tell him that you are very sorry that this happened and that your quarrel is a huge mistake.

And one more piece of advice: don't quarrel. If you feel that the conflict is still overdue, it’s better to sit quietly and talk about it. Squeals and screams, a mind clouded with anger and indignation will not serve you well. Speak calmly, without anguish, and in no case make yourself a victim. Do not blame - the conversation should be structured in such a way that you do not quarrel, but discuss. And, of course, it should be a dialogue, not your monologue. He, too, must speak his mind. Learn to compromise, give in, and then they will give in to you too. Well, your young man will undoubtedly appreciate that you can discuss the problem with you, and not yell because of it. So do not quarrel, be compliant and come to a compromise - and then is he yours forever!

Rule #19

“I WILL PUT YOU A SCANDAL...”, OR ABOUT THE ART OF CORRECTLY SCORING

Scandal is scary. Each opens from a new side and sometimes crosses the border. How to make a scandal without consequences? Show him your character without intimidating your aggressiveness. Be smarter and behave correctly: shout, cry - the main thing is that he understands the main reason for the scandal, without being disappointed in you.

And now we will talk about such a complex process as a real quarrel with a man. We just told you exactly how to reconcile. Now let's explain how to quarrel. There are situations when a quarrel is the only way to get through to a man. For example, when a calm discussion does not help. You tell him about the reason for your dissatisfaction once, twice, third, but he still does not understand you and does exactly what you do not like. Perhaps he thinks that it does not bother you so much and that he can continue to do what you do not like and go on. No matter how!

Most importantly, do not use swear words that humiliate him mental capacity. The word "stupid" can always be replaced by "stubborn", and so on.

In a well-arranged scandal, you have the right to raise your voice to incredible heights, use swear words (let it be a surprise for him: yes, you know how to swear, and no worse than a port loader when necessary!), stomp your feet, throw dishes. You can do everything, but remember - do not hurt him, do not cause serious damage to the room in which the scandal takes place, and do not involve outsiders in your showdown: your scandal is your scandal, most likely it will end in a stormy reconciliation, and the neighbors are here you don't need at all.

You can also burst into tears - I think any woman can do this if she wants, men do not tolerate women's tears, because they do not know how to console at all. In general, women's tears have the same effect on most men: they stand up like a pillar and begin to speak in deep voices: “Well, what are you, well, this ... Well, don’t cry ...” Our tears completely unsettle a man and are serious weapon to obtain all sorts of benefits.

But, my dear, we want to warn you: everything, as they say, in moderation. Do not abuse scandals - otherwise your man will have a strong immunity to your tears and he will stop responding to your demands. Rolling up frequent scandals over trifles, you risk one day not getting the desired result in some serious situation. A scandal is a great way to throw off all the extra negative energy that you have accumulated over the past few months. And once again I repeat - the main thing is not to abuse them.

Chapter 3 Genesis - no problem!

Rule #20

“I WILL PART THE CLOUDS WITH MY HANDS!”, OR THAT YOU SHOULD NOT TAKE EVERYTHING ON YOURSELF

Modern women are strong and used to taking on everything, from cooking dinner to nailing a nail into the wall for a bathroom shelf. But isn't it time to look back? There is a man nearby, and turning your life into a continuous concern for your husband is not worth it. The main thing is equality!

We all know very well: “there are women in Russian villages” who can stop a galloping horse and enter a burning hut. Some of us, unfortunately, forget that they are ladies and try to embrace the unreachable and do everything with our own hands. So what if after work from the store we drag heavy bags, and then we cook dinner, and then we take on laundry and cleaning ... No, my dears, forget about it. The basis of normal relations is democracy and equality. If you and your young man work the same way and get tired the same way, then in the field household you must work in the same way. Immediately teach him that you are a woman and you will not carry heavy bags, do repairs on your own and do other hard work. Believe me, this will save you from problems in the future.

Again, your man will be pleased that he is the one doing the hard work, and not hiding behind your thin back.

You must remember once and for all: your personal life is not a series of household chores. It should be rich, cheerful, full of joys and happiness. And forget what your mother told you in childhood about the fact that a woman should clean, cook and do laundry. Today, no one owes anyone, today women are sometimes even more involved in professional work than men, so why should we do something else without our desire? Of course, if you have an impulse to cook or wash for your loved one - please, no one forbids, but if you don’t want to do this, don’t force yourself!

Some ladies say: “But how will he wash? He is so tired at his job ... "Wait a minute, but what about you? Who told you that you work less or don't get as tired as he does? In the same way you get tired, in the same way you work and have the right to an equal division of household duties with your man! Remember this advice, it will be very useful to you when you begin to live with your young man. Teach him from the very beginning that your name is not Cinderella and you will not kill yourself in the household field alone. You can always share duties equally, and then your love boat will not break on the reefs of everyday life!

Rule #21

TODAY IS ONE AND TOMORROW IS ANOTHER, OR HOW TO CHANGE YOURSELF WITHOUT CHANGING YOURSELF

Men love different women - remember this and try to be different. Today you are a burning brunette, and tomorrow you are a blonde. Today you behave like a vamp, and tomorrow - like a naive girl. Change to "refresh" the attention of your man. Just consider his taste and your surroundings so that there are no problems.

We all love to change, such is the feminine essence. We like to change the image, hairstyle, outfits, color of nails, hair, lips and everything. So the question is: is it worth changing your appearance if you meet a young man? I will answer you right away: it is worth it! It is interesting for a man to see a woman next to him who is changeable and beautiful, charming and self-confident. What can give us self-confidence? New hairstyle and hair color. I want to give you another piece of advice. Before you decide to experiment with your appearance, gradually find out what exactly your young man likes in girls.

Men, by the way, have other extremes. Some of them, using their boundless love for themselves, are trying, like Pygmalion, to create your sparkling image, which is not very close to you. If a man starts telling you that he would like you to lose or gain a couple of kilos, dye your hair a radical color, grow your hair or cut your hair “to zero” and generally completely change yourself, think about it: do you need such a man? Perhaps he constantly compares you with another ideal image for him, and, believe me, in this case you will never be able to meet the requirements put forward by him. First, you will grow your hair to the buttocks, then dye it white. Then you will pump up the lips and chest with silicone. And you will become like - who? You guessed it, Pamela Anderson! But you are not her, you are, for example, Tanechka Belikova with your own strengths and weaknesses! Don't let anyone, even the person you love, make you what you are not. You are you, the individual, the individual!

So, of course, you need to change, but without changing your principles and views on your appearance. Again, don't follow fashion. If everyone dyes their hair green, keep your individuality and dye it the color that really suits you, and not the one that is imposed by the crowd.

Be different every day: today you are a tomboy in sneakers, ready to go camping with tents, and tomorrow you are a business woman in a business suit, and the day after tomorrow you are a sexy madam in a cleavage blouse. And then your young man is unlikely to be bored next to you!

Rule #22

STRENGTH CHECK, OR WORTH OR NOT TO CHECK IT

Is it worth checking the reliability of your man's feelings? Suddenly, his behavior in a situation you have specially created will upset you? Of course, it's good when your expectations come true and you both laugh at the test. Well, if not? Think!

The question, of course, is interesting... Let's consider several situations.

One girl - let's call her Irina - decided to find out how her boyfriend would react to the message that she was expecting a baby. Irochka told him this news and in anticipation of the cry "Hurray, I will become a dad!" covered her eyes. When she opened them, her beloved was no longer in the apartment, he stopped answering calls and disappeared, as they say, “to meet”. The vile essence of the gentleman was revealed - it's good that Irochka was not really in a position.

And here is another example. The girl Sashenka did a similar trick with her young man and came across a completely different reaction - he picked her up in his arms and, choking, said that he had long dreamed about it and that they were immediately going to the registry office. Without letting her insert a word, he painted in what colors the nursery would be decorated, and who would be born to them, and how he would play with the boy, and where the girl would be taken for a walk ... Needless to say, when Sashenka said, stammering that this was a joke, a prank, the gentleman's eyes became like those of a beaten dog. He was very upset, and they had a serious fight, almost to the point of breaking up. Thank God, now everything is in order, and they already have a wonderful child. But this “joke of humor” of his beloved young man still remembers.

But the girl Katerina, when she started dating another fan, decided to watch him, like a lion, scatter a couple of hooligans pestering them on the street. Two of Katerina's classmates acted as hooligans. Needless to say, the gentleman not only did not stand up for the girl, but also fled, flashing his heels ... Katya had never been as ashamed as at that moment. And it's a shame, of course, too.

So is it worth checking the strength of your loved one? Probably, after all, no ... Nobody knows how your young man will react to an innocent, as it seems to you, draw. Perhaps he will breathe a sigh of relief and scold, or perhaps he will be mortally offended (having thought, by the way, that you do not trust him). No doubt, sometimes you really want to know what he would have done in a given situation. But it's better not to do stupid things and let life run its course. She herself will show you whether it is worth trusting a young man and what to fear in communicating with him.

Rule #23

NO HINTS OR HOW TO GET HIM TO THOUGHT...

You want to be your man's wife. No, you just want to be his rightful mate. And he? Silent. It's time to tell him about your plans. Not directly, but tactfully push. To accurately offer his hand and heart and take him to the registry office.

You have been dating him for a long time, and you have already had thoughts about how to push him to the idea of ​​​​a wedding more than once. He himself does not say anything, but you just can not wait to hear the cherished words from him and fasten the ring on your finger. You already see yourself in a veil in front of the altar and imagine how in the registry office the full registrar says the cherished: “I declare you husband and wife ...” Eh ... And he is still silent. If so, then it's time to start the siege. It is only in beautiful films that the hero independently "reaches" the marriage proposal. Our men are not capable of this. They need to be pushed and pushed.

So, start watching films together with him, in which, after long ups and downs, the characters get married, and wipe your tears from tenderness. Passing by the bridal salon, start choosing your wedding attire, consulting with him and casually asking what he prefers - crinolines or dresses in the Greek style? Tell about the weddings of friends and acquaintances. Unobtrusively discuss with him who you would like to see at your wedding, and all in the same vein. Teach him to think about the inevitability of this event. Men are fearful by nature. They fear that with the wedding their precious freedom, their gatherings with friends at the bar, going bowling and playing billiards will go away. You need, reluctantly, to let him go to such places right now, so that he believes in continuing the same life after the wedding. Periodically hint that the fact of marriage is very important for you, that for you this is not just a stamp in your passport. It is better to do this late in the evening, after a good dinner or massage, when a softened and happy man is ready to do everything for you that your heart desires.

In the end, if nothing works on him, ask a question directly. Be unusual - propose to him yourself. Gone are the days when only a man could propose a marriage. In our time, a woman also has the right to do this. Well, of course, this is already an extreme case, let's hope that this will not come to this.

If all your tricks were not in vain, wait for the treasured ring and the magic words of your loved one.

And remember: the siege can last a long time, but there is nothing in this life that is impossible for a woman. Any lady can get married, because, as the British say, "what a woman wants, God wants." Patience and work will grind everything, the main thing is not to give up, and you will succeed.

Rule #24

NO COMMENTS, OR THAT YOU SHOULD NOT COMMENT HIS ACTIONS

He is an experienced driver who likes to drive fast. Or a novice who dared you, an experienced motorist, to take you home. In any situation, be silent. Men consider themselves smarter, especially when they drive a car. No need to give advice and scold him. He is almost always right. And even if he is wrong (which happens very often), he will never admit it. You are a friend and girlfriend, not a mother or boss. Remember this!

Have you ever driven a car with your man while you were driving? I wonder if he said something to you at your fingertips? If so, then you probably remember how it annoyed you. Men are also annoyed by your comments about his clothes, habits, driving style. Hence the conclusion - never comment on his actions. In addition to you, there are enough women in his life who do this with great pleasure - for example, his boss or mother. You don't want to be like them, do you? You must be different! If you want to make a remark to a man, think about the form in which it will be expressed. “Listen, you have such an idiotic tie, how do you wear it?” or “Take off that disgusting air freshener immediately, it makes me sick!” - what kind of reaction do you think such words will cause in a man? Of course, he will take off his tie, remove the air freshener, but he is unlikely to decide that he has got the most tactful girl in the world.

So, tact must always be present in your relationship. You should not demand, but it is better to ask, hint carefully that you do not like something.

Do not criticize him - he must feel that all his actions are correct and in any undertaking you will support him and not condemn his actions. You must become his rear, a person with whom he is easy and calm. You should not be his second mother, who chooses clothes for him and makes him wear a hat and scarf. Remember that your companion is a completely independent and capable person who is able to decide for himself what and how to do. Don't educate him. After all, we don’t like it if a man says that he is against the way you dress, walk or talk.

Each of us has flaws. Some people have no taste, some people laugh too loudly, some people love to dress like a clown. Your man is no exception - he has his own habits that you can never change. He is already a big boy, he has formed his own line of behavior. Therefore, put up with his little quirks and rejoice that you are next to your beloved and dear person, whom you perceive absolutely as he is, no more and no less! And then you can count on the fact that he will perceive you the same way and will turn a blind eye to your love of gherkins and small dogs.

Rule #25

"Hurrah, we're going to nature!", OR HOW TO ORGANIZE A PICNIC FOR TWO

Fresh air, barbecue and good company! Super! The main thing is to distribute responsibilities, think over all the little things and capture your good mood.

So, wonderful days are coming, and you want to go out into nature. Agree in advance whether you will be with a large company or you will spend the weekend just the two of you, which, of course, is very romantic. Most importantly, do not forget anything and make the picnic very enjoyable.

First, and most importantly, do not forget to buy all sorts of different repellents from terrible bloodsuckers like mosquitoes and midges. Second, dress appropriately. Even if you are driving, do not wear high heels. A forest is a forest, anything can happen, and you will be much more comfortable dressed in sneakers, a comfortable sweatshirt and simple jeans.

Rule #26

“CAN ME?”, OR HOLIDAYS WITH FRIENDS, AS WELL AS STEEL PARTIES

You want him to spend all the time with you. But do not forget - he has friends and a desire to relax with them. Of course, if he is not meeting his comrades at a strip club, he can be let go to a bachelor party. He will appreciate and understand what kind of “gold” he has acquired in your face.

Oh, those damn bachelor parties! No one knows what really happens in the company of men deprived of female supervision.

So is it worth it or not to let your man go to a bachelor party? Here's what we'll tell you: all the legends that bachelor parties are a man's opportunity to get drunk and cheat on a constant companion are lies. They get drunk, but it will not come to treason because of the great intoxication. So the only thing to be afraid of is that your gentleman will not calculate the dose of the drink and will be sick and suffering in the morning.

In general, you and he sometimes need to rest from each other in the company of their friends. Agree that you have topics for discussion that cannot be touched upon by communicating only with your man. I assure you that he also has something to discuss with his friends. Therefore, give your young man the opportunity to take a break from you and arrange meetings with your girlfriends at this time. Give him space and freedom, hinting that you trust him and consider him an old enough person so that he can not do stupid things. In this case, he will not oppose your walks to the club with friends in the same way.

Most main advice- do not call him five times an hour to find out "what's going on with them." You should agree in advance how many times a night and at what time you will call, and do not bother him with conversations like: “You probably already invited call girls there?” Your distrust will make him think about what you judge by yourself, and prompt the thought of these same girls. Never fight if he goes for a walk and drink beer with friends, but also try to make sure that he takes you with him as often as possible so that his friends get used to the fact that you are always there for him. Be him an interesting interlocutor, an understanding friend who will always support and understand in any situation. He simply does not want to part with you - why would he do this if you always meet him halfway and understand him like no one else? Trust him, because trust is the main part of a good relationship, almost everything is on this point. Treat his parties the way you would like him to treat your trips with friends to a cafe, and then you will not have any conflicts and problems.

Rule #27

YOUR PARTY OR YOUR PARTY: WORTH OR NOT?

Do you remember not to forget about yourself? Arrange your bachelorette party, just be sure to warn him about it, so that later there will be no various kinds of grievances and disagreements. And, of course, do not allow yourself anything superfluous, no flirting, and especially new acquaintances.

And why are men sometimes negative about the fact that you are just having a bachelorette party in the apartment of one of your girlfriends? The thing is that men by nature are dependent beings and can’t understand that if you throw a party only for girls, then there won’t be any boys there. Such a meeting of friends involves long intimate conversations over a glass of wine and light chatter about everything in the world. Due to the fact that men spend their parties differently, they do not understand how it is possible to spend an evening so ridiculously, and they begin to suspect you of all sins.

To avoid misunderstandings and disputes, before you go to a bachelorette party, explain to him that he can “track” your location at any time, and give him the home phone number of the friend you are going to hang out with. Don't forget to take your cell phone charger with you and call your loved one back periodically. Let him understand what you are experiencing when you are waiting for him from among the guests, and what you are thinking for yourself while he is not ...

I advise you not just to arrange bachelorette parties, but to arrange them periodically and regularly - this is simply necessary in order to relieve stress and make your man a little bored without you and jealous. Most importantly, do not deceive him in anything - do not be afraid to tell where you are going and with whom, as well as explain what you will do. If you are going to go to a club, give the address of the establishment and say until what time you will be in it. Don't flirt in a club - no one knows if anyone is around his acquaintances or friends. And no one knows if he himself will come here to check how you are spending your time (maybe he is a terrible jealous one, who knows?).

Don't get too drunk so that unforeseen and unplanned bad events don't happen. At a party in a club, do not ask for trouble - a few lonely girls can attract unnecessary attention from drunken men.

So rest, but do it wisely and do not go too far, then his confidence in you will not be shaken and everything will be just fine for you!

Rule #28

"YOU DRINK?", OR ABOUT WHAT TO DO IF HE DRINKED

He seemed perfect to you, and then he took it and got drunk. What to do? Go to bed and pretend like nothing happened. Or bring it home and give it to the parents. Let him be ashamed, and if you throw a scandal, you will not get anything good. Therefore: he - to sleep, and you - to forget!

Well, this happens to the best of them too - a “drunk” bird can fly over your best, smartest and most non-drinking gentleman.

So what to do if your young man grunted, so to speak? Well, firstly, you should not swear at him if he is dragged to you in such a state. He will still not understand anything at the moment and will not remember a single word of yours. In this state, he generally hears almost nothing and practically does not see. The only thing correct solution in such a situation - quietly and peacefully put him in a crib, where he will oversleep. In the morning, when he opens his eyes and asks you for some water in a terrible voice, bring what he asks for and touchingly look after him until he finally recovers from his yesterday's holiday. Well, then you can start a serious conversation with a calm soul. Explain to him that you do not like drunken serenades under the windows of a high-rise building at two in the morning. You also don't like the smell of his mouth in the morning and his swollen, unshaven face. Get him to ask you for forgiveness for the inconvenience caused and promise not to do it again.

If the young man went over in the company or in the club where you spent time together, you will have to take care of transporting the body to the house and putting it to bed. In this case, the fault will be only yours, since you had to make sure that you did not drink too much. If your man, drunk, is rude or rude to you, feel free to leave him with friends and go home, and after this day or two do not answer his calls and wait for him to crawl to you with a bouquet of roses, but never forgive him and do not dump All blame on alcohol. He must remember that under no circumstances, no matter how drunk he is, he has no right to offend you.

Rule #29

“I WILL GIVE YOU A STAR”, OR A LITTLE ABOUT GIFTS

Men love gifts! It is a fact. How to prove your love and get one step closer to the cherished stamp? Give him a gift that is worthwhile and original. Move away from tradition and buy a non-standard thing - he will appreciate it!

Of course, we are pleased to receive gifts, just like him. But what can you give your young man for holidays like New Year, birthday, February 23 and other "faceted glass days"?

A gift to your loved one must be approached with imagination and sparkle. You should not give him something that other women who love him will surely give - mother, grandmother, sister. If you also give him a fifth cologne or shaving foam, he is unlikely to like it. Your gift should be original, fun, and unhackneyed. If you decide to give him linen - find some "trick". Many men like briefs with dollars or cartoon characters.

If your young man has a hobby, for example, collects collectible cars or motorcycles, then it is easy to please him - just replenish his collection with a new copy of the next “bibika”, and he will be just happy.

But what to do if your man has almost everything that a man can have, and is not fond of collectible cars, butterflies, or bottles? ..

Try to create something with your own hands - for example, make a postcard for him. Take a few sheets of paper, bend them so that you get a small book. Cut out a heart from it and on each page stick pictures cut out from glossy magazines with funny inscriptions appropriate for the occasion. I assure you that he will never forget such a sweet, simple and fun gift. Especially if the card is "accompanied" by a bottle of good wine and a promise to show something new in bed this evening.

In general, show your imagination and start thinking of a gift in advance so that all your ideas are implemented on time.

And of course, do not forget that there are few happy holidays in our lives, and he will be very surprised if you give him something just like that. It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive. It can be a small picture, a funny piggy bank or a CD - the main thing is that the gift should be presented unexpectedly and wholeheartedly. I assure you, he will appreciate it and will certainly try to "reward". Don't you love receiving gifts?

Rule #30

"SHO-O-OPING!", OR IS IT WORTH TO DO IT TOGETHER

Stories about men hating shopping are familiar to every woman. And the fact that representatives of the strong half of humanity love shops is not known to anyone. Therefore, take your betrothed under your arm and go for your clothes. And don't be afraid that it will embarrass you. You will most likely get close.

There is a myth that men do not like to go shopping at all. Yes, yes, this is just a myth, because in fact they love to do it. But without us. Scientists have proven that a man gets tired of the shopping process after one hour and fourteen minutes, while a woman stops choosing after one hour and nineteen minutes. That is, we should just hurry up for five minutes to avoid conflicts and scandals. Nowadays, many men understand clothes better than lovely ladies, and spend as much or even more time shopping than we do.

If men go to buy something for themselves, then they take one thing “for centuries”, as they say. The quality of the things they buy is usually very good, and then these things last a very long time.

So is it worth going after things with your boyfriend?

I answer - it is better to take a man with you. He will tell you what suits you better by being more objective in this matter. Going shopping with friends is interesting, no doubt, but they will project your every purchase onto themselves. A man would never do that. After all, in the end, your loved one will be flattered that you trust him with the choice of your wardrobe.

Many men have a more pronounced sense of style and harmony than women. Let him dress you in what he likes, and if he is not a Muslim or a misogynist, then you will not regret letting him do it.

And do not be afraid that he will put on you a veil or something of an incomprehensible mouse color, and also offer you slippers with soft soles and a scarf on your head. In the end, you always have the right to choose, and you can always safely refuse his proposal - of course, in a very mild and harmless form for him. So, sho-o-oping!

Rule #31

“TO TASTE AND COLOR...”, OR ABOUT HIS HABITS

The main thing is to remember that your man has his own habits, developed over the years of living apart from you. His shortcomings are not the worst. Take a look at yourself - don't you have them? Be more tolerant, because he calmly reacts to your shortcomings. Take an example from him!

Oh, those socks of his on the chair and the TV remote in your Bohemian glass vase! What about an open tube of toothpaste and unwashed dishes? And his smoking disgusting cigarettes and complete unwillingness to shake out the ashtray in a bucket! Yes, my dears, but still you are together, which means that you are ready to put up with these habits of his.

Most men don't tell their ladies anything until they start pointing out their bad habits to them and try to start eradicating them. But remember, how often do you clean up your yogurt cups right after you ate it? And your glossy magazines, scattered everywhere, wherever possible? Countless toys, figurines and other dusty junk that perhaps annoys him? After all, you also have a huge number of shortcomings that your chosen one may not like, but in most cases he is silent, not wanting to offend you or acting on the principle: "I will not touch her, and she will forgive me my shortcomings."

Wouldn't it be wiser not to reproach him for throwing his pants under the bed again, and not to put them away with a grumble, but to leave them where they lie? Why bother yourself? He just goes to work a couple of times in wrinkled trousers covered with your cat's hair, and completely on his own will stop scattering his things. If you pull out his clothes, clean them, hang them on a hanger, he will not get rid of a bad habit, and your dissatisfaction will seem to him something wrong.

In any case, if his habits annoy you, try to talk to him and come to some kind of consensus. For example, if he smokes, explain to him that you feel bad about the smell of smoke, and set aside a place for him where he can smoke.

And it is best to forgive him for his little shortcomings. You won't change him anyway - he's already a big enough boy, and his habits won't go anywhere. Without focusing on its shortcomings, you will pass for calm and non-confrontational and will always have a worthy excuse in case of unwashed dishes: “But I don’t say anything about your socks on my bedside table!”

Rule #32

SMOKING AND ALCOHOLISM - FIGHT, OR ABOUT BAD HABITS

Needless to say, bad habits need to be fought.

Here we will talk about bad habits. What about bad habits? What are they?

Well, first of all it is, of course, smoking. It's a bad habit, to be sure. It negatively affects the lungs, heart and other human organs. But let's not argue, smoking can still be reconciled. But what about alcohol or drugs?

It's one thing if your chosen one drinks only on holidays, a little, and does not run amok after inadvertently drinking an extra bottle of beer. Quite another thing is if he gets tipsy from the first glass taken on his chest and becomes a cheeky impudent. In this case, it seems that your companion is a hidden alcoholic and it turns out that it is completely impossible for him to drink.

How many girls and women are there who are naively sure that for her sake he will certainly stop his bad habits and together, like a worker and a collective farmer, hand in hand, they will go into a brighter future. No matter how! This exception is if a man stops drinking or quits drugs for a woman. None of your bright love will save him if he is an alcoholic. You will take him to the doctors, spend money, nerves and health, you will listen and endure - but for what?

If you find that your man is abusing alcohol, immediately confront him with the fact: either you or the booze. If the drinking-party continues further - leave it. And do not be tormented by remorse, it was not you who made him so. It was not you who forcibly poured into him glass after glass or bottle after bottle. He did it himself and he has to deal with his problem himself. No need to consider yourself selfish - you just have to think about yourself too, about your happiness. What if you have a child with such a person? What will he see? A drunken dad and an eternally unhappy mother who does not know what state her husband is in today? You should be happy, you are a beautiful, smart woman with a lot of virtues, and by God, you don’t need to mess with a man who drinks or, moreover, uses drugs. Our advice is to quit. And don't worry about it at all. You can ruin your life, and in the future, the life of your child, so don't even think about it.

Rule #33

REAR DEFENSE, OR ABOUT CREATING COMFORT

Be the perfect wife for him. Organize your life with maximum comfort. To always be clean, satisfying and warm. But do not bring everything to pedantry. A man will obviously not appreciate it if, after he put his cup in the wrong way, you jump up abruptly and put it back in its place. A family is two, moreover, a woman is responsible for coziness and spiritual comfort in the house. Remember this!

In order for your man to always run to you after work, your house should be comfortable. I assure you, dear ladies, that comfort should be in your heart, and only then - in the apartment. It is not necessary to clean all the rooms every day and rush about with dinner on a tray, preparing some extraordinary dishes.

You yourself create the atmosphere of your home. Even if not everything is on the shelves, and the corner of the blanket is not so tucked in - you should not even think about it. A man should come to the house, and not to the museum, where you can’t sit here, touch this and, God forbid, violate the integrity and harmony of everything around. Meet him at the door, give him your most loving smile and hug him. Let your man feel that all the burden of his daily problems is left behind, somewhere on the street, and now he has come home, they were waiting for him here and they will give him dinner, and put him on the sofa, and offer a TV remote control. And the finishing touch will be your presence on the same sofa and your charming head on his shoulder. Believe me, this is all that a beloved man needs.

Well, after dinner is eaten, you can pester him with questions: how was his difficult day, what's new and how did the boss react to your man's proposal to improve the work of the team.

You have to listen to him, let him talk. Give him advice, but only practical ones. Ask him about the specifics of his work: he will be pleasantly surprised that you are interested in his service. Appreciate him and constantly, continuously praise him. He must clearly understand that there is a person who will not scold him for anything, but will always take his side.

And if the evening ends with a portion of a good massage, your man will definitely never go anywhere from you, because where else can he find a person who does so much for him?

Do not forget to just remember about yourself - tell him between times about your affairs, remind him that you are also a person, share your problems with him. Then he will appreciate and respect you even more. More good evenings!

Rule #34

“YOU ARE THE BEST...”, OR ABOUT HOW TO PRAISE

Everyone loves compliments, even if they deny it. But they hate flattery. Learn to praise your young man, but only in such a way that it sounds sincere and natural. Praise him, but do not overdo it - why do you need a spoiled egoist?

Men, even the most successful and most combative, are not always self-confident. And then you should come to their aid.

How many examples exist when we, dear ladies, saw, and saw, and sawed our young people and husbands. What for? Why do we say that they have flaws? You can do much more with a gingerbread than with a whip, remember that. From you never, absolutely in any situation, should not come from uncertainty in his mental or in some other abilities. For you, he should be the smartest, kindest and most beautiful. Be proud of him, glorify him, let all your friends envy you. Find features in him that everyone else does not see, and emphasize them. Focus everyone's attention on his merits and tell everyone that you are incredibly lucky to have such a "valuable shot" in your gentlemen. Just do not overdo it in praise, say everything in moderation and at the right time.

Respect him. Never humiliate or offend him in public. If you have any complaints - hold on to the house, there you will tell him everything, you should not make a scandal in public. He will evaluate your act by looking at how others sometimes act. There is nothing worse than swearing in front of a large crowd of people, when such a word can fly out that will completely upset your relationship. And at home, if you swear, never call him swear words. And in general, as we have already said, conflicts are best resolved in a civilized way, by discussion, and not by scandals.

Praise him in household chores, if he takes the initiative, in general praise him constantly for all his actions. And if suddenly he does something wrong, just do not show approval. He will immediately feel discomfort, I assure you, and next time he will not do this.

It is best to achieve caresses than screams. In your speech, the words “well done”, “I knew that you could do it”, “you are my hero”, “clever” should constantly sound. Your man will seek to hear those very words of approval over and over again. Accordingly, he will try to do something good for you again.

Rule #35

LITTLE LADIES' Tricks, OR JUST LITTLE LADIES' TRICKS LIKE FAINS AND TEARS

Oh, women are insidious creatures! We cry to evoke pity and an attack of love in a young man, capriciously pout our lips and wait for the fulfillment of our desires. And we can even faint with joy. In general, we skillfully use tricks - and the man is at our feet.

Well, what would we do without little ladies' tricks? Indeed, sometimes even a strong business woman wants to feel like a weak blade of grass in the wind and faint in front of her beloved man, in order to immediately find herself in strong arms and, opening her bottomless eyes, then plunge into the ocean of love. We are used to being strong, holding back emotions at work (unless, of course, you work as a foreman at a construction site), hiding tears of resentment deep in our pillows, and most of us prefer to watch melodramas alone at home so that, God forbid, no one sees how we cry. But it is necessary - to cry! When crying, excess salts are washed out of the body, which, if they do not disappear naturally, can be deposited in the joints and cause a lot of harm.

By the way, many men are afraid of women's tears and do not know how to respond to them correctly. They begin to treat you much more reverently and will do everything so that their beloved stops crying for a minute. With skillful tears, you can achieve the promise of a fur coat or a new glamorous mobile phone for your birthday. Although, of course, you can rarely use tears. When a man sees how you cry every day, he stops responding, and he develops a strong immunity to your wet eyes.

Rule #36

“MUSIC PLAYS ON THE SHIP...”, OR ABOUT HOW TO TRAVEL TOGETHER

Vacation together! You are filled with joy and happiness. The main thing is to decide together where you want to go, and not to quarrel at the first stages of the journey. And if you make concessions, endure until the end to enjoy the company of your loved one, good weather and new experiences.

So, great hot days have come, and you decided to go on vacation with your man to some great place where the sun shines and the surf roars. Or maybe you are going to the cold mountains to look at waterfalls and dolmens and study alien flora and fauna. The main thing is to correctly determine the place of your stay and discuss what you both would like. Because if you like to wallow belly up on the sand, and he likes to trample on sneakers, wandering "through the valleys and over the hills", then everyone will begin to pull the blanket over himself and insist on his own version. The smartest thing is to choose something mixed so that neither he nor you are offended.

You have decided on the place, now we will discuss your behavior on vacation.

Never whine. Even if you get motion sick on a ship and in a train, if you don't like the conductor, you are afraid of airplanes, like the devil of holy water, and so on. It is better to be patient so that, seeing how heroically you endure suffering, he begins to open his wings over you: cover you with a blanket, bring you seagulls and, in general, bother with you in every possible way.

Be prepared to endure stoically the hardships that travel always brings. These can be temperature changes, change of time zones, incomprehensible insects and other dirty tricks. Also, poor quality service can be attributed to these difficulties. Be calm, like a jellyfish, and don't let your man wind up - why start a vacation with screams and screams that won't change anything anyway?

Try to "catch his wave". Different men perceive the word "rest" in different ways. Someone immediately rushes to sign up for all kinds of excursions and is even going to go to some Zapupyrlovka to ride horses. And someone will want to sleep all this time on the shore with a Panama hat pulled down over his nose and with Pinacolada in his hand burned in the sun. If he loves excursions, you will love them too, because nothing brings you together like a discussion of the Drunk Dzhigit waterfall. And in the second option, you can just finally tan to ebonite color and surprise even the local natives with your skin tone. Look for the positive in everything, then your vacation together will certainly succeed.

And finally, try to enjoy every second, every moment that you spend next to each other - perceive your vacation as a vacation from everyone except both of you.

Rule #37

“DO YOU CAN DO IT?”, OR HOW TO AMAZE HIM WITH YOUR SKILLS

Having caused surprise, you can count on interest. To be different from others, to amaze with talents and skills - this is the weapon mass destruction. Be what he dreams of. Let a loved one boast to his friends and relatives, how original you are - you embroidered a picture for him! - and that the work of art was bought almost ready, he will not know.

Have you ever wondered how much we women can do all sorts of different things? How many talents do we have?

So, how can we surprise our dear? First of all, it is the art of cooking: if you know how to make a pork knuckle or twist rollmops and bake strudel, like his grandmother, then, of course, success is guaranteed to you. But what about those who come to the stove every six months and cannot distinguish the brisket from the tenderloin? You have to find your talents, that's what! They can be very diverse, and every woman can look for something in herself that will be pleasant for herself and can hit a man in the heart.

One woman, a very busy businesswoman, got into the habit of taking ready-made embroidery kits and creating amazing pictures for her boyfriend. Naturally, she claimed that the process of embroidery calmed her and that it distracted her from the showdown with employees and the whirlwind of working hours. Her man was very pleased.

You can also try to draw pictures or paint ready-made photo frames, create crafts or embroider with beads. You can create a collection soft toys or your own line of jewelry for yourself and for your home. You can also do patchwork, that is, the creation of wonderful blankets for the house from pieces of old coats and other nonsense. Imagine the joy of a loved one if he is presented with a gift so cozy and warm, and even made by your own hands! Now it will be possible to drink beer, wrapped in the needlework of your beloved, and watch TV at the same time.

The main thing is to "release" the flow of your imagination. You can, for example, if you are not afraid of heights, go through paratrooper courses and dedicate a jump from a great height to him. Or secretly learn to drive a car and one day demonstrate to him, dumbfounded, your skills. Try to improve yourself and find something new in yourself, discover your talents! Learn to play the guitar, pop with sticks, skydive, dance the tango or belly dance. Discover more and more new facets in yourself, and then your young man will never get tired of admiring you!

Rule #38

"I AM VERY SICK, TEMPERATURE ...", OR IF HE IS SICK

He is ill! What to do? Don't panic, first of all. Secondly, to understand how a man reacts to his illness: is it worth holding him tightly so that he doesn’t run away to work, or running around him, lisping and pampering. And, thirdly, to be with him so that he understands that he means a lot to you.

So, on a rainy evening, you said goodbye at the entrance for too long. As a result, he fell ill.

Men spend their sick time in one of two ways. The first one is: is he stoically endures the disease on his feet. He does not pay attention to the symptoms of the disease, continues to rush about with the phone under his arm and falls asleep in himself with all sorts of antipyretic powders. Such an "instance" is difficult to drive into bed, he will rest like a donkey and say that he needs to call there and run over there.

Men suffering from the second way, the majority: is he falls into bed already when the thermometer shows a temperature of 37.2 degrees. He begins to moan, moan and groan at this moment and believes that death is close. Therefore, he tries to use the remaining moments of life to the fullest.

In the first case, the man must simply be handcuffed to the bed and not let go by force.

But in the second case, everything can be turned into a fun game. Imagine that you are playing sickness! Lay down his in bed, pour him a hot cup of tea and lisp with him. Tell him that you are ready to become his own mother, and start feeding him pills, stroking his head and telling stories. He will be naughty and whine, but you should take it with humor. For a man, illness is an opportunity to run away from work, relax and get the missing portion of attention. After all, every man has the right to his little weaknesses, at least once a year, right?

If your gentleman, God forbid, fell ill with something serious and ended up in the hospital, then you simply have to be with him. Accept the hardships of hospital life with patience, and your man will definitely appreciate your attention. Encourage him, help and cheer him up, and then he will recover faster.

Rule #39

“CALL ME IN THE NIGHT, I WILL COME”, OR ABOUT HOW NOT TO BECOME A TOY

You don't have to own it completely. You are alive, and he is not alone in this world, even if he is so perfect. Do not let him use you - you are not a servant, not a sponsor, not a vest. You are a woman, a beautiful and confident woman who needs to be loved in order for her to love you.

Yes, sometimes it happens that the men we love use us. And I can assure you that in some cases we ourselves give them a reason to do this. How we sometimes love to follow them to the ends of the earth and become the wives of the Decembrists!

Sometimes we give up our "I", from our desires and become toys for our loved ones. Many of us have faced situations several times when it’s like love, you seem to meet, but you feel in your heart that something is wrong. Have you ever wondered if your young man is using you?

What, perhaps, is it just convenient for him to come to your house for everything ready, eat a delicious dinner and do it for you with a pen, referring to business and worries? That, probably, your relationship does not continue, because you are just being used?

But how to deal with such an attitude towards yourself? What to do so that your wedding is not something from a series of future uncertainties, but a planned event?

First of all, you must stop hoping that you are wrong and that your intuition in such a situation is deceiving you. Doesn't cheat. If your man does not start any conversations about living together and about the wedding, then he needs a shake-up. Try to let him know that he is not alone in the world and you may well find yourself another. Start wearing brighter colors and often refuse to moor your Columbus to your shore. Go to clubs with your girlfriends, walk the streets and get out of the house as often as possible in the evenings. Let yourself be indifferent. I know it's hard, but we want respect and happiness, don't we? Do not call him yourself and do not pick up the phone every time he calls. This will make him think, and he will surely become jealous of you. Usually such people - those who are used to an optional connection without continuation - it is difficult to imagine that they can be replaced by someone. The realization that the usual house slippers float right out from under the nose, and some other man can get the stuffed fish and soup, puts them into a stupor and makes them want to sort out the problem. And here the main thing is to make it clear to him that there is no return to the previous relationship. You are a person and worthy of respect, and not being used as a cook and free sexual joy. Well, if all else fails, drop it. This novel can drag on for a long time and bring you nothing but suffering. Is he worth it?

Rule #40

HAIR ON HIS SHIRT, OR HOW TO RECOGNIZE TREASON

It's sad when they betray. Yes, men are prone to cheating, but you need to make sure that this does not happen to your loved one. Prevent betrayal, and if you didn’t have time, first think about why he took this step. Perhaps you are the reason?

Treason... Why are they doing this, what do they lack? Apparently, something is missing, since they find lovers on the side.

Have you noticed that your man has become somehow confused, or, conversely, too attentive to you? Perhaps he began to give you gifts more often and make love to you more often and diligently? Think about whether there is a catch here and whether he has found himself another woman or simply a lover! Do not drive away this sad thought - this can happen to each of us. Accept betrayal or break off relations, it's up to you.

First, always pay attention to how he behaves. If something changes in his behavior, he becomes inattentive, hovering in the clouds, it is worth considering whether this is because he has another woman.

Second, notice how many times a week he stays late at work. If more than two, you should beware.

In general, men blame only themselves for most of their betrayals and feel incredible shame from the realization that they committed a betrayal. Therefore, they begin to "pay off" you, bring gifts, make love more diligently, and so on. If your man suddenly felt the need to carry armfuls of gifts for you every day, think about it.

By the way, one more piece of advice - never dedicate any of your relatives or friends to your guesses about cheating. Your version may be wrong, and his delays at work may indeed be caused by a rush. In this case, you will be put in an awkward position. Cheating is a matter that concerns only you and your man, and it is not at all necessary that half the city knows that your boyfriend is cheating on you.

Don't jump to conclusions. Perhaps a man is burdened by a new connection and has long wanted to part with his mistress, or maybe there are no mistresses at all.

After all, you can just sit next to him and ask a direct question. And ask for an honest answer. The right to choose whether to forgive the betrayal or stop communicating with this man is yours. If you do not feel the desire to leave and forgive him, it's up to you. If you want to quit the insolent - it's also up to you. But remember, nothing should offend or humiliate you, not a single person has such a right!

Rule #41

"MY TROUBLE DEFENDER...", OR HOW TO MAKE HE FEEL LIKE A HERO

Men are representatives of the strong half of humanity. So let the man show his strength. Let him carry your heavy bags a couple of times, and now he is ready to carry you in his arms. After all, you chose him as the strongest, that is, you, fragile, defenseless (even if not entirely so), need him, and he can safely call himself your protector and savior!

It has long been customary that a man is considered a stronger being than a woman, and therefore must protect her. In our time, it is quite difficult to find a representative of the weaker sex who would not be able to protect herself morally and physically. Our today's women can drive in the eye with a hairpin, and in the nose with a fist ... so what should a poor man do who suddenly wants to protect you? After all, he is a man, which means he is stronger, and we periodically destroy this myth, and his pride suffers from this. To prevent this from happening, I want to give you some advice.

Even if you own some kind of martial arts and can knock out the brains of the big uncle with a shout of “cue”, you should not demonstrate this - it will be pleasant for a man to stand up for your honor and dignity on his own. In a conflict situation, you should simply look pitifully at your loved one and hide behind his broad, heroic back. And then cover up his “terrible wounds” with brilliant green and tell him that he is a real knight.

Tell him as often as possible that you are a small and fragile woman, even if you are taller than him. You cannot carry heavy packages without it, move furniture or walk the streets in the evenings. Let him know that only he is able to protect you and save you from the evil "banderlogs" lurking in the doorways.

It is worth a little screeching in horror when you hear thunder peals outside the window, and he, imbued with your helplessness, will immediately begin to save you in bed, isn't that nice?

In the end, you can simply set up a meeting in a dark alley to let him enjoy all the sweetness of defeating the hooligans. A couple of your friends will pass for hooligans. Of course, it would be better for them to change a little, so that later there would be no unpleasant questions from your gentleman.

Try to pretend to faint - just first practice on the rug at home how best to fall. Men consider fainting only ladies' fun, so let's not dissuade them.

The main thing is to constantly inspire your man that he is a gallant and courageous gentleman. Let him feel like your knight in shining armor.

Rule #42

LIFE, OR ABOUT HOW NOT TO FIGHT ON THIS SOIL

You began to live together, and everything became common. Every day you see each other, and not always in at its best. Household chores have become a habit, and laundry and cooking have become an integral part of your life. But soon everything gets boring, and from dirty socks and cabbage soup you want to run away or yell at your loved one for dirtying everything and eating. Is it worth it? Patience and sincere conversation will help to overcome the crisis in the relationship.

In all respects, there comes a moment when we are faced with this great and terrible, breaking love boats, spoiling the demographic situation in the country LIFE. You meet, then move in to live together, and discover that serenading under the window is one thing, but his socks and an unmade bed are something else entirely. So here's how to make sure that your family boat does not crash on this very life?

First, do not forget that you live together and therefore must bear an equal burden. But if you both work, it's one thing, if is he is the breadwinner, so to speak, then it is a little different.

In the first case, you get tired in the same way - therefore, I strongly recommend that you discuss in advance what duties you take on and which ones he should perform. After all, you must admit: it’s a bit strange and unfair that you come home from work and start cooking, washing his shirts, washing dishes and cleaning up, and he comes home from work and falls like a mowed down on the sofa, taking out and opening a bottle of beer on the fly and clicking the remote control.

If you do not work, but sit at home, then in general beauty. You can sleep until dinner, lie around, watch TV shows, clean up and cook in the middle of the day, and do all sorts of other things to have time to finish them at least an hour and a half before he returns. Then put on a marathon, paint, smear and, fragrant like a rose bush, meet him at the door.

Rule #43

SPINOSA IS RELAXING, OR HOW TO CONQUER IT WITH YOUR INTELLIGENCE

Being smart is very good. You are respected, obeyed and ready to look directly into your mouth when you utter your new smart thought. The main thing is to know the measure! Pretending to be a candidate of biological sciences is not at all worth it, even if you had an A in biology at school. Well, and even more so to build a stupid girl out of herself, who is not able to understand why the car drives, but people do not fly.

Men believe that chatty ladies are unreliable, a little stupid and overly gullible. A talker can give out a secret "in secret", she can say stupid things, and in general a man would not go into intelligence with a talker.

So you have to give up this habit. Be silent. It's not easy, we understand, but it's NEEDED. You'll see, you'll love it. You will be able to hear people, not just yourself. This is especially true for the company of his friends. Listen more and talk less, inserting comments on time and to the point, and you will pass for a very interesting and intelligent interlocutor. This tactic has been practiced by Dale Carnegie since time immemorial.

Try to read more and often discuss what you read with your man. Do not hesitate to enter into disputes with him, defending your point of view, if you think it is correct. Show him that you have a rich spiritual world, that you can easily distinguish Remarque from Hugh Grant, and that you are fond of not only magazines.

All men watch the news, you watch it too. In this case, you will not only be able to keep abreast of current events in the world, but also get the opportunity for new discussions with your man.

Well, what if you can’t stop the talker in yourself? Then at least speak more slowly so as not to brecze any stupidity. Nothing discourages a man from communicating like stupidity. And if he forgives you once, then the next time he will already think: is it worth linking your fate with such a woman?

In any case, you should have your own point of view on everything that happens around you.

Don't be naive and don't start talking about things you don't understand. If he is fond of reading books about military operations in the forties, then he probably knows more about this than you do, and it is absolutely pointless to enter into an argument with him about this. All your arguments in conversations should be clear, meaningful, and then he will never be able to think that you are stupid or naive.

Rule #44

"YOU AND I, YES WE WITH YOU", OR YOUR JOINT HOBBY

You spend a lot of time together! But what are you doing? If you have a common hobby - and common hobbies are very close - you become not just people who love each other, but also comrades in some business. In addition, after all, sooner or later, topics for conversation will run out, but if you have a common hobby, you can always talk, for example, about a new brand with butterflies.

Nothing brings a man and a woman together like a joint leisure time spent with interest. So, you must definitely invent it! So what do we choose? Hiking, breeding budgerigars or rare breed small dogs?

Whatever you choose, the matter of choosing a joint hobby must be approached with all responsibility.

Do not choose very expensive classes. In general, it is best to draw a man into your favorite pastime or “stick” to him, so as not to waste time inventing.

Well, if both of you don’t have any hobby, then you should come up with one.

For example, you can collect postcards or stamps together. Philately, however, is a little unfashionable, but postcards are still quite popular, and since there are a great many of them now, this hobby is not yet uplifted.

You can also collect old things. This is an expensive activity, but very interesting. You can create your own video library from rare but interesting films or try to collect records - you really have to chase to find them!

But this hobby is more girlish, but a man can also be attracted to it - to collect, for example, beautiful curly soap. Fortunately, it is now also produced in sufficient quantities.

The most important thing is that your hobby does not become a bone of contention between you and your man. If he likes to collect rare species insects, and you are afraid to go outside without repellent - then I think you should talk to him. If you like to collect plush dogs, and he does not tolerate dust, then you should also decide what is more important to you: him or dogs.

And there may be joint hobbies of an extreme type. For example, find interesting places for making love - what's wrong? Or joint skydiving, horseback riding, racing, horse racing, whatever, as long as it unites you and does not offend any feelings of your partner. You can kayak, go hiking, go to nature, it's all a hobby too.

And try to treat his hobbies with special interest, he will be flattered and will surely like it. Do not scold him for what he is passionate about, and in no case be jealous of his hobby: he will think that you want to cut off his oxygen and, in general, encroach on his personal space.

In any case, a joint hobby or your keen interest in a man's hobbies will help you get to know and understand your loved one better.

Rule #45

HOW TO MAKE LIFE A LITTLE FUN OR ABOUT HUMOR

Laughter is joy! A person who easily looks at life is much more interesting than a grouchy beeches. And men love those who attract the attention of others. Therefore, we learn to look at life cheerfully, in order, firstly, to please him, and secondly, to be happy. After all, if people laugh at the same jokes, it means they have a lot in common.

Fifteen minutes of laughter adds five minutes to your life. Laughing is healthy and enjoyable. But to laugh, you need to have a sense of humor.

If you do not have a sense of humor, then you are very unlucky. For some reason, people who laugh a lot, often and sincerely, are perceived by others as little kids who have not yet learned how much a pound is dashing, have not yet seen life. Surely in your environment there is certainly a grumbler who constantly bays that you are too frivolous? By the way, have you noticed that such people are always unhappy both at home and at work? Everything is wrong with them, everything is not that way, they all work poorly and in general - their opinion is that life is too hard to have fun. Don't trust these people. Laugh to your health, have fun and do not pay attention to those who do not know how and do not like to laugh.

Your sense of humor may be specific, some may not understand it, but you should not pay attention to it. There are always people who will be around, despite the fact that it’s not what amuses others that makes you laugh.

If you like to laugh at the top of your lungs, joke and rejoice - do it, it's better to be considered frivolous than a grump. After all, you have the right to do what you like and no one can stop you from doing it.

In order to "improve" your sense of humor, you must develop associative thinking. Most of the funniest jokes are based on this. Don't be afraid to joke - don't care what others think about it. Life is too short to waste it worrying about what anyone thinks.

Watch more comedies and try to develop the talent of a parodist in yourself, then in any company you can win everyone's attention. Consider each joke carefully, because it may offend someone from those to whom it is told. If you tell a joke, try to do it in faces - you get a mini-performance.

And most importantly, do not be afraid to be funny - if people laugh, then they feel good, and if they feel good, then you feel good too. Smile, laugh and don't be afraid. You can make fun of others, not offensively, but with a fair amount of irony. Well, those who constantly grumble and frown, let them continue to do so.

Rule #46

“TODAY WE GO TO THE THEATER!”, OR ABOUT HOW TO CELEBRATE TOGETHER

How to behave in society, so that later it would not be excruciatingly painful for your behavior? Most importantly, be smiling and friendly to everyone. Be active, but within the bounds of decency.

So, you have a common day off, and you are going to go to some place where there will be a lot of cultured people, for example, to the theater. First of all, we do not forget about the dress code. We certainly won't go to this place in jeans and a top. We will go there in a glamorous but simple dress or suit, by no means provocative and not too revealing. We won't have a million jewelry, and our face won't look like a wall of a new building, all covered in plaster. We will be beautiful, calm and majestic.

If you are going to celebrate a holiday together, immediately determine who will do what and where everything will take place. If you are going to friends, then distribute the responsibilities between yourself and them, if friends come to you - the same thing. Who cooks, who cleans, who wears, who washes, and so on.

It is worth thinking about how exactly you will have fun - so that the party does not turn into an elementary booze. Come up with or remember a few collective games and spend them, having previously prepared everything you need.

If you are going to spend a tete-a-tete holiday with your loved one in a romantic setting, think over the menu, come up with some new cocktails or exotic dishes and - since you will be alone and only the two of you! - put on something wildly exciting and make your sexual dreams come true.

Try to maintain the mood of the evening and do not drink too much. It will not be very pleasant to wake up the next morning with a wild headache and understand that you remember absolutely nothing. And then listen to the details of how you danced on the table and tried to strangle the already cooked fried chicken. In general, you should not drink a lot to avoid any problems.

By the way, don't stay too long. Leaving a hospitable home is among the first. Be friendly and cheerful, calm and never speak badly about the hosts later, even if you didn’t like everything at all and you felt uncomfortable.

Have a good rest with your loved ones and happy holidays!

Rule #47

“I WORK LIKE A WOLF…”, OR ABOUT WORK

Work! How much good it brings: money, pleasure, communication. But how badly does it affect relationships with a man! He disappears at work, postponing appointments and slowly pissing you off. Calmly! You can find a way out of any situation.

Agree, it happens that your man works too much and does not pay enough attention to you. This is very bad, I do not argue, but let's try to get into the shoes of a loved one for a minute.

For a man, work is not only a way to earn money, but also an opportunity for self-realization. He works to be proud of himself, to have cash, to be able to take you to restaurants and movies. Therefore, the fact that you appeared in his life will practically not change anything: he will continue to work in the sweat of his brow.

You probably understand that giving up work means throwing yourself out of the vast world. Most of our lives are spent at work, where we are in a team and have our own niche. About our professional success It's always nice to tell a loved one.

But what if your man doesn't have enough time to meet you at all? He makes an appointment for you, but after a few hours he calls back, saying that nothing will work, because the boss “loaded” him. What to do in such a situation? Throw a scandal, stomp your feet or endure, hoping that everything will pass and someday he will appreciate your patience? Most likely the first. Judge for yourself: if you work no less than he does, but do not refuse him meetings and do not cancel them, then why can he do this?

So that you do not have a conflict on this basis, we advise you to sit down with your man and decide calmly, without shouting, that there is a limit to workaholism. Tell him that there are things that are much more important than work. Work is the way to achieve material wealth, but putting everything on the altar of work is not the right decision. And remember: this applies to you too, don't forget about your man and don't give most of yourself to work. Not a single, even the most profitable, place is worth the lost chances on the love plane.

Sometimes you shouldn’t put pressure on a man, be objective if he actually didn’t give a reason for reproaches all week, and on Saturday he works again. Do not swear, all the same, nothing can be achieved with a scandal, and if nothing can be changed at all, then just ... accept it.

Rule #48

“DEAR, WILL YOU MARRY ME?”, OR ABOUT HOW TO ACCEPT AN OFFER CORRECTLY

You have waited! He is ready to offer you his hand and heart. What to do now? First, agree. Secondly, calmly respond and show that you only need him, and not a lilac stamp in your passport. And thirdly, just rejoice, only quietly, to your happiness.

And then came the very day when he proposes to you. It can happen anywhere and at any moment. Remember that your man himself is now shaking like a hare in the forest. That's it, his free life ends, and he wants to, and injects ... He most likely does not even know how exactly to make an offer, and is afraid that you will say "no", that you will say "yes" and that in general what say something.

Therefore, be calm, and do not push him directly "to these very" words. Be careful and do not show the appearance that you see his excitement and understand what it is connected with.

After he is still able to squeeze out the cherished “be my wife” or “marry me”, you simply and calmly, but, of course, with a happy smile on your face, tell him: “Yes.”

No need to squeak with delight, jump, or, conversely, coax and mutter something like: “Well, I don’t know ... I have so many offers, I don’t even know what to tell you.”

No need to waste time and pretend to be who knows what. We all know that men at such moments are completely insane and can regard such words as anything - refusal, mockery of his feelings, and so on.

You and I, too, at such moments can shake, flatten and sausage, to put it in a youthful way. Firstly, because we are more emotional and react more strongly to everything, and secondly, at such a serious moment it is impossible not to worry, this is understandable.

By the way, the proposal may not sound. Men love to delay this wonderful moment.

It is allowed to playfully climb on his knees and, smiling slyly, ask what he is hiding from you, treating him with a glass of champagne.

Well, if the proposal was made, then you should not immediately rush to call all your friends and parents to tell them that you have decided to get married.

You also don’t have to rush in the excitement to choose your dress and shoes.

Sit with him, discuss the details, do your favorite thing, the main thing is that he feels that you do not need the status of a married woman, but he himself - with all his shortcomings and cockroaches in his head.

Because immediately after a man has made an offer, all sorts of conflicting thoughts begin to swarm in his head: but, maybe, it was not necessary ... no, or it is necessary ... To avoid such thoughts - stay close to him .

Rule #49

PRE-WEDDING MARATHON, OR HOW TO STAND IT AND NOT PARTIATE

The wedding is coming soon, and the main organizational issues have not yet been resolved. You are nervous, and so is he. A little more, and you'll quarrel. Do you need it? Calm down and deal with it. After all, it will be very disappointing to leave at the end of the “wedding path” due to delays in organizing the celebration.

The pre-wedding madness begins. How to withstand this and not quarrel with your beloved "in the trash"?

First, we must immediately divide the responsibilities. You should not take everything only on yourself or, conversely, blame it on him. For example, it is up to you to choose a dress, shoes, accessories, book a cafe, count guests, order a cake and a car for guests. On it - the choice of your costume, menu, ordering tickets for the plane in which you fly to the Canary Islands. In general, think for yourself what you will do and how to distribute responsibilities.

Secondly, you need to stop worrying and twitching. Something is bound to happen that can piss you off at the wedding and before it. And in this period you need stoic, just Spartan calm.

Connect your and his relatives, friends and acquaintances to your wedding preparations. It is impossible to survive the difficulties of a wedding plan on your own, we assure you, do not even try.

Of course, a lot depends on the splendor of your wedding - on the number of guests, whether you invite a gypsy choir or get by with a DJ, whether there will be fireworks, fireworks, a convertible, and so on. By the way, you and your fiancé should discuss all these issues together. You should not insist on your own if he wants the same gypsies with bears to be at the wedding, and you think that this is not fashionable, and you want everything to be "in the Gothic style." Come up with something that will suit both of you and will not hit your budget too hard.

Most importantly, do not be nervous and discuss everything with your loved one. The first thing you will definitely need - all these terrible queues at the registry offices, bureaucratic delays can simply drive you crazy. And how they will irritate your fiancé is not worth talking about.

Never listen to what your parents tell you. When they got married, things were very different. Do not forget to choose a normal toastmaster, it is best if this person is recommended to you by one of your friends.

And most importantly, be always with your loved one. And at the wedding, and after it, throughout your life together - support each other and do not let circumstances separate or quarrel you!

Be happy, and bright love to you!

Conclusion

That ended with advice on how to successfully marry. We hope, sincerely hope, that they have helped you in solving your personal problems. But, of course, one cannot live only by books. Think more with your pretty head. We take knowledge from books, and we get experience from life, do not try to take our advice as a direct indication to action. The world is big, and life is too diverse and unpredictable to blindly believe what is written.

Be wise and happy, forgive - and they will forgive you, give in - and next time a man will give in. Be loved - and love yourself.

Good luck and bright feelings!

What helps girls meet their destiny? What determines a man's choice? How to be attractive to the stronger sex?

Among the female half, the myth that beauties get married easier and faster is very common. But for girls who consider themselves not too beautiful, it is more difficult to do this. And, like every myth, this one also contains only a fraction of the truth.

In reality, beauty is a relative concept. Clever nature has laid down its own criteria for female beauty for different men. Even an irresistible beauty conquers not the absolute majority - 90% of men will find flaws and flaws in her.

It happens that a recognized beauty, hoping to meet the star prince, may remain without a husband. And the one who does not consider herself beautiful often marries successfully and lives happily.

Why is this happening

At first, a man is really attracted to appearance. Each beauty for a man is like a new thing for a woman. At first you are crazy about this thing, literally sleep in it, not wanting to part with it. But after a week, the novelty bought is no longer so happy, it turns into an ordinary one, and goes to the closet to other things in the wardrobe.

Like a new thing for a woman, so for a man, any beauty becomes ordinary after a while, he gets used to her and begins to notice many of her shortcomings. Especially if she does not find a common language with a man, they have different views on life, she is not disposed to understand and support him. Then they part.

It happens that a man meets a woman who does not have a bright appearance, but who has the same attitude to life, similar interests, first-class sex. Then he, having fallen in love with this woman, sees her as the most beautiful. And he does not need any beauties of the world - his beauty is next to him.

Mutual understanding, trust, lack of lies and honesty in relationships are the basis of a happy relationship.

What is important for a girl

There are prevailing ideas among men, what qualities a girl or woman should have. They are known to everyone, and the representatives of the fair half, to the best of their ability, try to match them.

So:

You are well-groomed and tidy, take care of yourself and your appearance. You do not have bad habits, devote time to your health, sports and dancing that are useful for you. You have an attractive figure, you are always dressed with taste and look feminine.

In dealing with young people, you are distinguished by a state of inner peace and well-being. Your eyes radiate a smile and benevolence. By your polite behavior you resemble an English queen surrounded by her subjects.

You are distinguished by a positive attitude towards life, a good attitude towards people, including men. At the same time, by the tactics of your behavior, you tell the man that, compared to you, he is more interested in your relationship.

More about another important point that can ruin everything - this is the smell. A man, seeing a girl that he likes outwardly, comes closer to her and smells her. And if he is unpleasant to him, even if she is the first beauty of the world, she will not attract him. On the contrary - a girl at first sight may not hook a man, but he smelled her scent, which captivated him - and he is submissive. ( You can read more about the effects of smell on a subconscious level in the article:) Among the rich range of perfumes for a brighter impression, you can choose perfumes with pheromones.

How to get married

All girls and women should remember the most important thing: love yourself as you are, appreciate and respect yourself. There are no ugly women. There is an incorrectly chosen hairstyle, makeup, clothes, perfume.

With proper application, makeup will hide flaws and emphasize dignity. Perhaps you should seek the advice of a stylist in order to present yourself as advantageously as possible. The effect can be seen on the example of world stars, comparing their faces with and without makeup.

If you, going to the mirror in the morning, tell yourself that you are ugly, you will share this opinion with others, and they will also perceive you as ugly. And if, looking in the mirror, you say that you are beautiful, then it is this feeling that will be transmitted to others too. You will be attractive and desirable for many men, and you will be happy!

Recently I talked with a friend - she talked about her classmate, showed photos. She asked me if I had good and free men. Classmate is just amazing. Even, rather, waste. Imagine: a shock of hair to the waist, all thin, but with breasts and booty, long-legged, tanned, toned, well-groomed to the point of impossibility. Not vulgar, but exactly up to this threshold and extremely feminine. Simply perfection! And she is dressed the way "boys like": dresses, heels, short - but in moderation - skirts, everything is so flying and alluring. In general, she looks like I wanted to look at twenty, but never looked. Although she is thirty. Although in life you can not say.

And this air fairy, who is also smart, sweet, benevolent, loves to cook, supports herself, has no unrealistic requests and wants to marry just a good, kind, faithful and family guy of about her age - just never get married can't get out. They get to know her often, they invite her on dates, they turn their heads on the streets, they brag to their friends - but they don’t get married. She even goes to a psychotherapist about this. Trying to be even better than she is.

And at this moment, my friend and I again bump into the photos of the fairy and snort in bewilderment: the world is obviously unfair. How can such a miracle remain alone and suffer from this?!

And then I try to look at her with male eyes. Not by any male, because whatever they want to devour it and not choke on a bone. And through the eyes of that very good-family-faithful-kind. And suddenly I realize: “Listen,” I say, “neither your husband nor my husband would come up to meet a girl of this type. She just wouldn't be in their line of sight."

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And we suddenly realize something amazing. My dad says about this that “very good is not good anymore.” In the sense that I know dozens of happy families, dozens of very good, loving and caring husbands. Some of them are also damn rich. But none of them is married to a woman of perfect beauty. Don't misunderstand me, many of these wives are delightful beauties, delightful in their imperfection. And many - not at all. The question is that none of those very husbands chose their wife according to their entourage. Undoubtedly, all these men find their wives extremely attractive - to themselves. But their beauty was not self-worth.

I will try to explain using the example of a child: when I started dating after a divorce, I suddenly realized that the quality of those men who met me became much higher than when I was very young and free. It seemed like a paradox until I realized that bad or unmarried men just didn't get to know me. They themselves fell off at the zero stage. That is, I have fewer fans, but they have become better.

The same was told by one friend who, after a complex hormonal treatment, suddenly recovered by twenty kilograms. And then I met my amazing husband. (And with several other ardent admirers who created considerable competition for the then-not-yet-husband). And the point was not at all that the husband loved plump women - he did not mind at all when, after a year, the effect of the drugs stopped and the girlfriend suddenly turned into an almost model beauty.

The fact is that he fell in love with her character, caustic sarcasm, ease and ability to get an orgasm thirty-eight different ways. He was good enough not to filter women by the size of their clothes, and began to make friends, chat in the evenings and drink in bars with my girlfriend - simply because he was fun and interesting with her. And then suddenly I realized that she was - wow, what a charm, and it seems that he was gone.

In this sense, it is more difficult for my friend’s classmate: when you are young, free and wildly attractive, everyone is nice and kind to you. Everyone wants to take your phone and take you to your rooms. Everyone tries to look better than he really is. It is extremely difficult to distinguish the wrong person in such a situation - they begin to show themselves only at the stage of a serious relationship. Which hurts our heroine. Moreover: the ring of “unsuitable” men around such a girl is so dense that it is impossible for suitable men to break through it. In addition, those who are suitable are often less experienced, awkward, shy, and generally not used to taking women by storm and swoop. They usually wait when "naturally", when "by itself".