A strange paradox, but according to a survey, 90% of people find it unacceptable to use profanity. Although, according to the study, in today's Russia more than 80% of the population actively uses the mat.
Therefore, the situation when a child swears, unfortunately, is familiar to most modern parents. This is due to many reasons, the main of which will be discussed in this article.
Why do children swear?
The very first reason is the example set by the parents themselves. If a child from an early age hears how his father or mother constantly uses abusive phrases in his speech, then he will definitely try to repeat them.
Moreover, some parents even like it when the baby says phrases of dubious content - it seems to them a funny and funny joke. Some even film it and offer to admire their friends, and sometimes even post videos on social networks. Of course, this just doesn't work.
So, dear parents, your behavior is the most important example for the baby. And do not forget that this little miracle, whose antics are so cute now, will definitely grow up, and then his behavior will no longer be so cute. And therefore:
- The main rule is no swearing in the presence of children;
- If a child learned to swear in the yard or at school, you should explain to him how vulgar, stupid and “not cool” it looks from the outside- no confrontation or ridicule, here a fair amount of good humor will come in handy;
- If the child swears in the presence of strangers, there is no need to make a public scandal and a demonstrative "execution", it is better to try not to notice this or turn everything into a joke, and after clearly explain to the child why swearing in public is not the best way to attract attention.
Sometimes children use swear words when they want to be noticed. You can’t fall for this trick: it’s better to answer that you don’t hear what your child says - let him say in normal words. Then the child will give up this idea, since his game does not work.
But modern realities are such that, no matter how hard parents try, they still cannot completely protect their children from swearing, since you can hear swearing on the street literally at every step. It is impossible to completely isolate your own child from the surrounding life and the street - what to do when he goes to kindergarten or school?
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The influence of others on the psyche of the child
If at preschool age the main authority for children is their parents, then from the beginning of the school period, the emphasis shifts. The child makes new acquaintances at school and often succumbs to the influence of his newfound friends. If it is customary to swear in the company in which your child is involved, then obscene turns will certainly appear in his speech. So, often, children aged 9 to 12 demonstrate their independence and confidence.
What should parents do in this case? First of all, by no means prohibited- a simple "prohibition" you will not achieve anything; moreover, the child may move away from you and withdraw into himself.
What do parents need to know?
- Most often, oddly enough, weak-willed children swear, so you need to take it seriously character building your child. Give him responsible tasks more often, show that you respect his opinion, strengthen his self-confidence;
- Set Your Priorities, for example:, books, any other hobbies. Let the child understand that this is really “cool”, and not empty chatter with friends or girlfriends; give examples of famous people whom he respects;
- Say that if his vocabulary does not change in the near future, then you will be forced not to take him to the cinema, entertainment centers and other public places; at the same time, these should not be empty threats, you can do it once;
- Explain the importance of the situation- in which case swearing is completely unacceptable, and in which it can even play a role, for example, if different punks get it, and he needs to fend for himself.
An important advice is that your own child is not worth it “for the market”, it is better to try to strengthen his self-confidence and clearly prove that strength is not in swearing.
How to wean a child to swear?
In adolescence, children, in general, swear much less often, as they already understand that this “does not work” in most cases. But in some companies it is simply customary to “talk obscenities” - in this case, the process of self-affirmation of the child among his own kind continues.
Since the threat of “weaning” a teenager from various recreational activities will no longer work, other ways must be sought. Attempts to put pressure and prove how ridiculous he looks when he swears are useless. He already has evidence of his "coolness" among swearing peers.
It’s also not worth threatening that you won’t give him pocket money or don’t buy a long-awaited smartphone, because he will forget the reason for the ban tomorrow, but he will remember the fact of the threat for a long time.
In this case, parents should not try to suppress their own child, but, on the contrary, try to strengthen your authority in his eyes. Usually at this age, children stop perceiving their parents as the only right ones, and this is natural. If a mother or father begins to put pressure on him and try to subdue his will, then they can get either a completely uncontrollable creature or, conversely, a weak-willed amoeba without its own “I”.
Here it is very good to learn from the centuries-old experience of other peoples, for example, Caucasians. In adolescence children there learn to respect their parents and not just obey them. And respect lies in the fact that in the presence of not only parents, but also other older people, the use of any profanity is simply unacceptable.
This, in particular, applies to girls, in whose mouth obscene words sound just awful. Yes, and it is unacceptable for young men to swear rudely, especially in front of women. Only in this way does a teenager give society a “request” that it is time to consider him a full-fledged adult who himself deserves respect.
So, instead of morally humiliating your child, try to make him respect himself and his opinion. In no case do not lose your temper, and do not lose your dignity. Always be calm, reasonable and authoritative in front of your child. Grow up yourself - then your children will become adults!
In conclusion, I would like to say that the frequent use of swearing by a child always indicates some kind of problem - either in education, or in worldview, or in relations with parents. In any case, dear mothers and fathers, it is always worth paying close attention to this, and do not put off the decision until later, hoping that over time everything will pass by itself.
By showing sufficient patience, perseverance, and, most importantly, love, you are able to correct any shortcoming in your own children, and they will certainly answer you for this with gratitude. Good luck and good luck with this!
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